luckycharm
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Well sorry about you problem. I think it stems from being let down.
At least you gave the test... I couldn't even make myself to give the darn thing...
Anyway I felt depressed and let down afterward too. But after a few weeks you learn that's not the end of it. But it does take some time to come to terms with it.
The best thing is to NEVER compare yourself to another. It makes no sense. My theory is everyone gets hung up sometime. That's life! ....And yours was now....Others will get theirs sooner or later.
So, as far as studying is concerned, take one step at a time. Say that you'll get through 2 Chapters in some book. Then keep adding to it. Eventually you'll get back into it.
As for where to start, chose a subject you did borderline in. I am not recommending the worst subject because just looking at it can be discouraging. And I am also not recommending the easiest because near the end it will breeze by. SO there you go!
And make sure you don't make this exam bigger than it really is. I did.
Think of it as one ingredient in a recipe. So no big deal. If you forgot the salt add it later!
And pretend to be extra cheery esp now and you'll actually become just that. Alright get started! 
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| jram
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i feel your pain stepss. i'm in the same boat.
great advice luckycharm. i like how you said that you shouldn't make this exam bigger than it is. that was my biggest problem. 
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| hcm11
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I am sorry for your situation... but I would say, well, just put your butt on a chair and start studying!! The minute we let ourselves have options is the minute we start finding excuses and stop doing what we should.
There's just one question to be answered: Do you want to take the test again or not?!
If yes, well, you know what you gotta do: "put your butt on a chair and study!!" If you don't want to retake it, well, your life has just become a thousand times easier than it was, but also maybe with a thousand times less challenge and future satisfaction!!
If you are sad and feeling down, I can understand that!! It's normal, so go to your room and cry, talk to your best friend for a couple of hours, get drunk tonight (don't drive or call your exgirlfriend afterwards!!) and then tomorrow: "Put your butt on a chair and study!!"
If you don't have an option, well, you just must... it's like going to school, you were not asked if you wanted to go or not, or if you feel up or down, or if you like maths or science or not, your mother would wake you up and put your ass in the shower if you wanted or not... and then there you were sitting all cute all day long with your but in a chari and studying!!! So, just take the same approach..
I must say I was studying when I felt like, and was waking up until fully rested, and if I became sleepy I would go to sleep... IT SUCKS!!! You don't study like that!!! I have changed that now, I now set an alarm clock, I don't go to sleep everytime I want, I take a nap after lunch for an hour with alarm clock again and don't go to bed until late at night. I force myself to do three blocks of UW everymorning and revise the blocks afterwards and then read from the lecture notes. I am not watching TV or the olympics or going out or to the movies or reading what Jen Aniston is doing in Monaco or wherever the hell she might be or talking to friends that much.. Do I like it? NO! Do I want to? NO! Do I feel good about it? No! Does it bring a smile to my face everyday? No!
So, why do I do it?! Because I know it's the only way for me to do it... by just doing it, no thinking, no choices, no "how am I feeling today?!" I know how I will feel after all this is done and I get a desired score!!!
In a couple of days of torturing you will be studying so much you wouldn't believe, and after a while, you might even start liking it... I promise you, just do it!!! Don't ask yourself if you are feeling alright, or if you like the topic or if the sun is out today... just one question my friend, and when you have answered that, the road is pretty simple, very hard, but simple!!
I wish you the best!!! Good luck! ANd: "Go sit your butt on a chair, and STUDY!!"
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| elizabethzt
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hcm11: you are right, this is the way to archive the goal; but be carefull stepss, to be in that possition you first have to be rest, be pacefull and ready.
I'm in a similar point, I had to cancel my test because I'm sick (pregnant with severe all day sickness) and I dont fell like study, I have a lot of pressure, but I'm traing to calm down, take rest, sleep and watch TV... I know in a couple a weeks I'm going to fell better and I'm going to study like hcm11.
I'm no going to make to make it for this match, and wath!!!!
is ok, life is how you want to live it...
my friend good luck, you going to make it 
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| hcm11
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Elizabethzt,
I am sorry for your situation... I wish I could help you out. Now, being physically ill is something waaaaaaaay different... that's not something you can control. When were you planning on taking your exam? How much have you studied? How much were you scoring in UW if already started?
PS:I Love your cat!!! It's amazingly beautiful!!
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| elizabethzt
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hi hcm11, this is Thomas, the sweeter thing ever!!.
I was almost ready, I had 60 to 65% in UW (the last 700 Q), but wen I become ill, and with all the concerns about having a baby who wasn't in our plans, my concentration decreassed so badlly that I started to have 45-60% and was only able to study 3 hours at day. so I cancelled my test last week, and I will waithing untill I fell better to take it (appointment in sep 15th) now I'm only study a cuople of hours ( kaplan internal medicine book) and I will tray to star to do UW tomorrow, i'm 10 weeks now, so I'm only pray this to stop, is really bad!
when is yours??
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| wgau14
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it was a nice advise hcm11. i always believe in the saying "no pain, no gain" . if we want to reap good harvest, we must really invest on it and work hard. your advise was kind'a inspirational. i guess for some of us, like me who has a family (husband and a daughter), i couldn't do that. there is always a family thing that you have to weigh in and consider and reconsider most of the times. i wish i could do that, what you were trying to advise stepss, for me its a really good formula not only in passing an exam, but also getting a good score.
but i now notice what i am lacking. coz sometimes i make my family an excuse to escape, sort of cheating myself on my schedule. after reading your post, i now know where my weakness lies in my preparation. i just hope i have enough time to be really serious before my exam on October, i only have like six weeks left, and I'm not yet finish in pedia and i only finish 40% of UW scoring 50-63% most of the time.
thanks for a wonderful advise and good luck on your exam.
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| hcm11
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elizabethzt... I don't know what to say.. I would say... use the magic formula... if you are feeling physically better, again, sit your butt on a chair and study... you are almost there!!!!!!!!!
I am sorry to be so direct, but sometimes you just gotta... what are you thinking about!?!? There's no decisions to make, couple maybe... you are having your baby, that's understood, you are staying with your bf, that is implicit to me as well... what else has changed?? I know, pressure and so on... but still, I don't see many things where you have control that are more important than the exam.
Baby is more important!!! Of course, but what you gonna do about it?? Already pregnant, take your folic acid and FeSO4, what else can you do?? boyfriend is still there... just get more support from him...
Now, think of this: It's true, you should take it easy and everythign, but what are you going to do afterwards?? Are you going to study with a baby to take care of?? Hmmm I don't think so, you will be sleeping less and feeding him and bathing him and all that stuff... so your time is now, as I see it...
Again, I am sorry to be so direct, but I think that'll help you more. Why are you not studying?!?!? What the hell can you do now?? nothing... if you feel sick, get a bunch of pills (that don't hurt the baby of course) and take them when needed... I would say, just go for it... sept 15th is a LOT of time to study... more than we could imagine, especially if you were already hitting the 65%'s... everything is there, just do it!!! Trust yourself!!!!
I hope you don't get mad... if my advise works, I'll gladly accept a female cat when your cat has kitties...  jk!! Take care!!! And get better... and sit your butt on a chair and study!!! (I like the phrase!)
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| hcm11
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Wgau14... now, are you working?
If you are, well, that's really hard, working and a family.. pffff!!! Still, if your exam is in october you have time, I think, you have already started with UW, I have completed just 42% of UW with 61% average and my exam is on sept 4th... to that's a whole 4 weeks less... and I am going for it.
there's some point where you just have to take the exam. Mine is now! It's like I said the other day, if a long jump athlete postpones the olympics four more years, will he surely get the gold medal or jump a lot longer?? i don't think so... there's a point where you have reached the full of your capacity and after that, there's no more improving, so just take the test.
I think, many of us, if not all, even the ones not getting '>90's, are pretty clever and work hard and study hard and have a lot of higher goals in life. to all of us it would have been easier to just follow the path that was set for us before, but we chose differently than so many other people. We chose the hard way, the harder way, the hardest maybe... and here we are!!
I think for us, being so good in many aspects, we have a tremendous fear of failure. and that's when your subconscious and defense mechanisms kick in, you start making excuses... what for?? well, for your feared lower than desired score!! If after that score you can say... well, at least i didn't study like i know i could have... then you still have a good image of yourself. On the contrary, if you say, i did everything i could and still did not get that 89 or 84 or 95 or 97 or 99 or whatever number you want, then... what do you do next?? that's the fear my friend, that's the reason, i think, for us making excuses... so just get over it and accept it.
it's not that you don't shine bright like a star... it's not that, it's only that there are a lot of stars out there willing to shine too... and i am not talking about comparisons... but just the fear of being measured in how much you shine... we all go through different things, someone can have a 99 and someone else an 80 maybe... but that's just so stupid to compare people by one number or exam... you don't know if the 80 one is really a waaay better dr, with lots of experience, decision and charisma... and the 99 one is just a library rat with no interpersonal skills... which one would you like to treat you?? see!?? so, let's just face it, we go through a lot of different situations, experiences, it's not university anymore were everybody is on the same standards and conditions... some of us work, some just study, some are pregnant or recently pregnant, some have a family like you... so, it's a selection bias!!!! ( i hope i said it correclty... i can't think of ONE question about bias that i have answered correctly... i just don't get it!!! hahaha) so you can't compare us by a score...
go make an effort, talk to your husband, it's just some 7 weeks more, he'll understand... use your breaks to attend your child... sleep a little less and take your test and accept your score!!! i also said, i pray to God not for the numeric score I want in my head, not the symbolic number but for the score that will let me into my by Him intended residency...
Best wishes!
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| elizabethzt
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hcm11: I like you! you are so rigth about so many things...
I have my butt on the chair and I going to star now!!!
thanks, be in touch
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| wgau14
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thank you so much ill try following your post here. you really give good advise. you give me hope and strength to face this exam. no excuses anymore. again, thanks a lot
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| hcm11
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i am glad my words help a little!
take care all of you... and... well, you know... put your butts in a chair and study hard!! God bless you all! keep in touch for scores...
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| hcm11
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i am glad my words help a little!
take care all of you... and... well, you know... put your butts in a chair and study hard!! God bless you all! keep in touch for scores...
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| hcm11
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i am glad my words help a little!
take care all of you... and... well, you know... put your butts in a chair and study hard!! God bless you all! keep in touch for scores...
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| hcm11
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elizabethzt, wgau!!! How are you doing guys?? I took mine on sept 4th!! I hope you are still studying a lot!!!!! let me know!
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