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studyforstep3
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Dear friends,
I want to congradulate everybody who matched this year, I was in your shoes last year. I was extremely happy and proud of myself. I started the residency with a big smile and extreme enthusiasm, and since I have some publications and used to work in a prestigious University, the program was prepaired to damage me. They assigned the nastiest 3rd year resident to me in my first month. He treated me like the last animal and instead of teaching I received daily calls to the PD office because the nasty person was lying and making up stories. What ever I said to my PD was not accepted since I am new and they do not know me yet. He made my life miserable. He loved to see me crying. God punish him and punish similar people from( sorry to say that India). I never had anything against any nationality, and I came naive to this program willing to do only good. I was friendly to everyone and was doing no harm. Why did I get this evel in return. Not only that, he expanded his evel intensions and asked my PD to forbid me from writing orders. My PD called me and did that officially. I acquired a very bad reputation thank to this dog. Everybody knew that I can not write orders( he proudly announced that in the residents lounge). I wanted to die during those months, I started to drink and smoke just to forget the reality. I do not know what was the reason behind all what he did. And the biggest problem was that I had no support from my PD and I got 2 defficiency letters from him. So I was living in fear and just waiting for them to kick me out of the program. I can not describe what I have been through. I was about to walk away and leave the country. Working like a dog and being treated like a trush is not what I was expecting from a residency training. But that is the price of signing a contract in a bad program, that is the price of lowering your standard to the level of such people with no culture, who came escaping hunger and who perceive you as a threat. I am sorry friends, I do not want you to think that I am descriminating, I just want to tell you about my experience with some unpolite people.
I also want to mention that many attendings will watch and participate in abuse due to their fear of loosing their jobs. I remember for example that on one of the floors, my resident was trying to give me hard time by asigning me to many difficult patients and setting an hour to see all the patient( she knew exactly that you can not see all of them in such a period of time), then she was demanding and asking the details, and if you say 'don't know' or make a tiny mistake, she would go to PD and acuse you of falsifying and misconduct. This was all done to damage my carrier intentionally. Do not think that PD will be on your side, unless he knows you well. But my bad luck, he was believing them and there was nothing I could do despite all the explanations about the organised abuse.
So do not think that good life is waiting for you. This is only part of the abuse that you might experience. We must be masochists to kill ourselves for such a misserable life. What is the reward for all this sacrifice? Money? I do not think so. Prestige? I do not think so because prestige comes with money and there will be no money after residency.
For those who are still free, enjoy your time, because you will remember my above words when you will be in.
God bless!
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| Korotkoff
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This stuff happens everywhere in the World. I think it is part of training in medicine. It is displacement. Probably, the 3rd year resident you are talking about is stressed more than you.
Do you mean there is no way you can complain to the PD about extereme cases? Some people take it to the extreme to show their power.
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| MDin08
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HI, sorry to read about your experience but i had this urge to mention that when you are time & again that it's only your experience then on the other hand why are u saying "these people who escape hunger...".....every person is different, I met so nic people from India(I'm not an Indian btw)....& they were very knowledgeable, yes, I agree most of them have a communication problem b/c English is their 2nd language but if u get past that fact then they are very friendly & helping people.
I understand intern year is a terrible year of everyone's life, but just take it as another year in you med school where ofcourse, u didn't know much but still u learnt, yes, your teachers sometimes got upset, but all these things made you learn better.......my advice, lock all yoru emotions , prestige, in a locker for just 8 more weeks man then u'll be in 2nd yr & would have more freedom than last year....just sit bak then , relax & enjoy the show that will start in jun when the new interns come in...hang in there man, soon it will be over, just imagine if you would have gone unmatched last yr & applied this year & still couldn't have match(God forbid)...what would have you felt at that time....right?.....my advice always try to find something positive in every situation like in this case, i'm sure u'll never forget thei time but also u will never forget how to wrie an order all your life also ...so isn't it good that u learnt to do somethingu didn't before.....BEST OF LUCK IN TEH REST OF UR RESIDENCY....just live in the moment, if someone acts nasty, just count to 3, blink your eyes & forget what you heard but do rememeber the lesson that u learn in all those experiences....i hope thsi helps ease your stress a bit....ENJOY MAN, U R AN MD....go & check out how many peopel would wanna trade places with u so that they could get a residency.... ...  ...haev fun, this time ain't gonna come bak
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| MDin08
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& if i am coming to ur program then i won't mind u getting mad at me......now smile & forget it, it's a part of growing up & learning process
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| ladydocz
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GROW UP!
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| mukho
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"God punish him and punish similar people from( sorry to say that India). "
Well, u dont want God to punish similar people from elsewhere???
Am sorry u had a bad experience with someone who is India (I too am from India)...but discrimination cant ever be fought with reverse discrimination...so anger isnt all bad just dont let it get out of focus...hope the rest of ur residency turns out better .
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| drshvetasm
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Studyforstep3,
Every single person from every country is not the same. I dont know what nationality you are from but if I had to take YOU as an example of your entire nation and nationality and generalise...it would definitely not be a good picture either...so its better that you dont generalise...its best for all of us.
I'm very sorry to see what you went through..hope you will find the strength to pull through it and it will pass soon. You have great things to look forward to, so be strong and face it. We are all here for you. Good Luck.
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| saam009
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work hard and show your talent to her . and learn to say no resonably ,this is usa nobody can treat you like that .
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| praying4a99
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I'm sorry to hear that. Can't you quit your job and apply somewhere else? Cuz you do not deserve this.
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| praying4a99
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Its not a problem just with some Indians, I met similar Syrians, Saudis, Egyptians, Jordanians ... I think the problem lies in their past experience ... don't you remember "Identification" from behavioral science, where someone unconsciously patterns one's behavior after that of someone who is more powerful? Example, a man who was physically abused as a child abuses his own children?
Those, whom are oppressed today, are tomorrow’s oppressors.
Scary, but true.
Edited by praying4a99 on 05/01/08 - 01:41 PM
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| vector
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sorry about that.i know there could be few psychotic fellows like that many a times in residency.it makes life really miserable for fellow collegues to work with such people.
after so much struggle humiliation is worst one can experience,its not worth the status nor money one may make later.more so staying in an alien land and suffering is a misery.but all that said you struggled for that one residency post,so dont let go
i would say please report such abuse.dont just take it.or not apply for pgy2 post in another place ,mention that you have to move due to family reasons.
this kinda abusive behaviour comes from their background,how they were treated in med school, the sense of seniority and hierarchy.most of them typically are arrogant .all they know to boss around.
dont let it happens,if it continues move out or report it to gme commity.
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| new_n_lost
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You guys failed to see one thing and all of you missed it. This particular was here last year complaining that some chap from Asia was making her life miserable and PD was asian and not helping.
1. http://www.prep4usmle.com/forum/thread/59900/
2. http://www.prep4usmle.com/comments.php?id=61780
3. http://www.prep4usmle.com/forum/thread/66216/
If you all go through these threads you will find a deliberate attempt to misguide people. I wonder if this all really happening to this person.
Make your own conclusions. And Believe me, we most of us here, are a like a family we fight we argue but if the time comes we do help out each other like a family. Sometimes people do take advantage of this so beware.
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| praying4a99
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I realized this the first time I read the thread, but I didn't give it a second thought:
"Not only that, he expanded his evel intensions and asked my PD to forbid me from writing orders."
"then she was demanding and asking the details, and if you say 'don't know' or make a tiny mistake, she would go to PD and acuse you of falsifying and misconduct."
I dont know.
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| arlete
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 Weird...
Anyway... "read what is waiting for u" never rings like a common sensed person speaking. Sounds more like somebody trying to spread bad feelings like prejudice (and fear of it), hopelessness, weakness, and most of all: fear, fear, FEAR... 
And if this person is really telling the truth... Well, we always have to hear both sides of the story. Sometimes the victim is not really a victim, sometimes there's much much more to it than we'll ever know.
To my friends and colleagues around: cross that bridge when you get there. Chances are your experiences are going to be way way different than this one. And if something similar happens to you, I hope you'll CHOOSE to react to it better than this person, who decided to pour sand into everybody's soup around here. I mean, this is a place where everybody is trying to get into a residency program, right?
Keep your s##t to yourself! Sorry...  Couldn't resist...
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| praying4a99
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Everyone can share his/her problem but not in this fashion.
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| Korotkoff
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Amazing!!! Thanks NNL. I hate liars!
Two thumbs up for rockingdoctor.
LOL...could this be the lady who faked being in FLDS ranch? It looks made up story to me.
Should we report this to National Organization for Women? They can track this person down and find out the truth. This is serious accusation.
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| studyforstep3
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Dear friends,
I read many replies from different people. But this story is true. I am sure many people who experienced the same thing know what I am talking about. It is just that I am not used to this type of behavior. But may be for many of people it is normal. For those who are not in a residency, do not say a word and do not make a stupid comment like rocking doc, you will remember my words when you will be in my shoes.
Abuse is there, and nobody can deny it.
Good luck!
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| new_n_lost
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Abuse is there but not in the proportion as you have claimed or presented. What i cant understand why do you feel that the whole Asian population in that hospital is after you or out to get you.
Blame and pointing fingers goes both ways. When you point a finger at someone three fingers are usually curled back at you i.e the blame is 3 times yours as well.
This topic is discussed enough. Closed.
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