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Royaldoc99 wrote: her freind then said "oh, well in that case nevermind then!" What the hell is this attitude of marrying doctors about???? I just can never seem to figure that out. Why cant people focus on getting to know the person instead of judging them by their profession???
One of these days, when you least expect it, you will turn around or be on call with a great guy. You will hit it off and that's it.
You may be from one end of the world and he the other. Or you could be from neighboring cities with the same religion and values - and never known each other back home (like the two doctors from a middle eastern country - they met on the elevator at the hospital. They knew some of the same people, but didn't know each other. Married a couple of years after dating American Style).
The hopeless romantic in me believes it.
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bbb wrote:paheli wrote:
Dear bbb, What did you do different [if any] the second time around? Has it made any difference, considering that you're still going strong? [You don't have to answer if you don't want to.]
Thanks.
What did I do different? I married someone that I actually had things in common with, not just going to the same school and knowing lots of the same people. I also too the time to get to know Bachelor #2 - with #1, he was working several hundred miles away and then overseas - when we got married, we had only actually lived in the same town for a couple of months. Bachelor #2 and I have lots of the same interests - and I believe that being 10 years older, we are a lot more tolerant of each other. After all, he doesn't mind me hanging out here instead of housework. 
And for that, I think we need to thank him too! Thank you, Mr bbb!
Thanks for you reply, bbb. I wish you all the happiness you desire in your life.
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bioguy:
Don't you ever, ever, EVER remodel your house! It will be the fastest way to divorce!
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arlete wrote:bioguy: Don't you ever, ever, EVER remodel your house! It will be the fastest way to divorce!
Oh my God!!! Thanks for the tip, Arlete. We rent now, but our latest fight is on whether to buy a house in future or not. I, being lazy, am totally against it, since its a lot of work to go through mortgages, house hunting, even after buying a house a man is supposed to do all the maintenance work - plumbing, lawn-mowing and all. But she so much wants to own a house.
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That'sone of the fastest growing threads I have ever seen here!
And to bbb:
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Oh, my, bioguy... here we go... Even before buying it!!! 
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Oh bbb ...I wish what you said comes true for me. Thanks. I am really hoping to find someone in residency otherwise I will go into serious clinical depression!!! I wish finding love wasnt so hard. But I pray what you said is true....that I will find my guy in residency.
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RoyalDoc-
Great Job...fantastic decision!!..iam sure you will never repent it.There should be no guilt whatsoever as i believe relationships are all about give and take.The foremost thing is the trust and respect you have for her/him.iam sure you will find someone special soon.
Arlete-
You have been a sweetheart all through this thread.all your experience is so valuable for everyone here.
Paheli-
You have a very balanced head above your shoulder and your posts reflect the level of maturity.
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Interferon18:
Thank you!
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Thanks for sharing your experience with us bioguy. Your old avatar told us nothing about your personality! Take it easy on your wife, OK? Doctors are goodguys.
NNL, what are your takes on the subject?  ... I know your are still hunting. 
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paheli, oh...i didn't meant to probe into a touchy subject, I thought since you had put your thoughts out there...I'd ask...well, sorry....
bioguy....u know what's funny? I'm havin the same argument with my hubby but the opposite. Hubby dearest is dying to buy a house coz he's seething at the fact that "rent money" is going to waste when if you add a bit more money you can own a house....n' my side? i dont want a house coz it'll be too big to clean, i can't even handle our 2 room apt....n' of course he's promising w/ the lawn mowing & maintenance but when he has a proper job I know it's all gona end up on me....*LOL* I'd rather have a condo, something small...don't have to clean so much
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Thanks, Interferon18.
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Thanks Interferon18
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When did this thread became a sticky??
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This thread had become so interesting because we are all human and we all need love. We all need that special someone to complete our life despite the cutthroat (yet lovable) profession that we all come from.
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Royaldoc99 wrote:This thread had become so interesting because we are all human and we all need love. We all need that special someone to complete our life despite the cutthroat (yet lovable) profession that we all come from.
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i think royaldoc99 answered in a very plain and simple way the truth and nothing but the truth on myeloma's question of this thread getting sticky.....and sinca all of us want a chnage of topics apart from MLE's this is a nice breather.
Even i would have answered the same way but would have fell short of words...Good Job RD99!
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Man this thread has become huge in no time at all!
And some strong and well thought out opinions here.
Have plenty to say myself but will come back tomorrow.
Very sleepy right now.
But good job here, all of u.
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I dont see a lot of guys here, wonder why...
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Ok. Here we are with a guy view then. But dont how much u can generalize this. I dont like generalizations anyway.
For me each one of us is unique. Each one of us has something special to offer, and equally, each one of us also has a downside to him/her.
I also dont believe in polarising issues, like dividing them on gender grounds. I'm what I call a 'humanist' to the core. Of course I do believe one gender has it easier than the other. That is a fairly simple truth to see.
To me how u percieve marriage is either a very complicated issue or a very simple one. It all depends on ur circumstances. This comes from a guy who's been through the journey from the totally complicated to the utterly simple.
If u asked me 5 years back whether I would ever marry, I'd reply with a fairly uncomplicated 'NO', only because I thought marriage to be such a hassle. I believed it to be a lot of compromise, too much adjustment, and a whole lot of uncertainty. I thought all these factors when allowed to run in tandem sufficiently long eventually erode enough into a relationship to destroy its very core.
This perception though, has undergone a drastic change since. Only because I met the most wonderful person i've ever known. And with her by my side I knew life would never be the same again. I just could not afford to live this life without her. She overnight became integral to my existence. Since then I know of no day when I felt any different, the bond has only gotten stronger. Sometimes its hard for me to believe that I am the same person I was a few years back. But thats life and thats how I love it.
In summary, I truly believe it really matters who ur life partner is. If u compromise on that then life can only be a misery, and the only person to blame for such a situation would be the one making this decision for himself/herself.
We are responsible for our happiness, and whatever choosing we do, we need to do it wisely. Of course we are liable to commit our mistakes, but its wat we learn from them, where they eventually lead us, that determines our fate.
Happiness, mostly, is in our own hands.
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genbot wrote: Happiness, mostly, is in our own hands.
Very true, genbot. And, that's right where it should be, always. I know this to be true.
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I think somebody is in looooooove!!!!!
How long have you been together, genbot?
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Right arlete!
I sure am!!!
We've been together for more than one and a half years now, and its been an amazing experience all the way.
And I cant wait to have more!
Love sure gets u greedy.
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Till now nobody answered, is it a better idea to marry early or its better to delay?
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It all depends on when you find the right person. I found him at 16, he didn't recognize I was THE ONE and dumped me. I met him again at 19, my bad, I was too distracted at the time and got my revenge. Then again at 25, so I married at 27 (both of us finally fell in love at the same time and agreed we were made for each other). But I am glad we didn't settle when I was 16, or 19, so I could grow up by myself because of it. Same for him.
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