dr_ayyad
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white rabbit
my scores are 267 and 264 , need visa J1 , publication in my home country,2007 grad.experience in a well known center home ? apply or not ?
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| arlete
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Dear whiterabbit:
I am sorry to read about your ordeal, how tough it was and how, at this point in your life, you can't see any good on it, only the abuse, the money wasted, the unfulfilled dreams. I hope things will get into another perspective as time passes by...
But with the rule "don't apply unless" you are in such and such conditions... I could not agree at all.  Each person knows his reasons for trying. A dream is a dream and sometimes giving up before trying everything one could would kill him inside, more than wasting money, more than wasting time, more than being abused. It's very personal.
I hope you'll be able to compensate your parents for enduring it all with you. Even though they suffered, I am sure they felt good for being able to help you. That's how parents are. I don't think your mom cried for the money. She cried for your situation.Talk to her about it. Say "I'm sorry" if you need to. One day they will need you, too, money involved or not, and you'll be there for them, I'm sure. One day you'll be as dedicated to your sons/daughters as they were to you, they taught you how to love and dedicate.
Just summarizing: nothing is in vain. Even the lost battles are worth ones. Eventually that will sink in. What we want sometimes is not what is best for us, but God knows when, where and why. Sometimes we have the answers down the road, sometimes, we don't... We just need to believe. Maybe it was not for you. But you wouldn't have known without trying.
I am praying for you, time heals and matures (I am not calling you immature, don't get me wrong) and our tendency is to get better and better through the years.
A huge hug, God bless you.
Arlete.
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| abdo
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agree with u arelte . very nice words
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| Praise the Lord
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dear whiterabbit, i can understand how painful it can be if one is abused by someone and is also struggling to be a doctor in the US.the pain is ther sticking with you......but u r a great human in that u have forgiven ur foe...not many souls can do that.......i'm telling u BY GOD'S GRACE YOU WILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL ACHIEVE WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO IN YOUR LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS IS SURE FOR YOU AND FOR ALL THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED! the message is strong-------ABUSE IS WRONG--------THERE'S NO JUSTIFICATION TO ABUSE SOMEONE, WHATSOEVER THE REASON MAY BE!!!---BULLIES!!!!---GET LOST!!!!!!
whiterabbit-----BEST WISHES!!!!!!!!
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| whiterabbit
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Thanks arlete and praise the lord.
I went to church today.palm sunday....and prayed..and I feel healed. Should have done that 2 days back.....well good luck guys
WR
And Guys Keep voting please for the poll on scramble advisory
Edited by whiterabbit on 03/16/08 - 08:22 PM
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| arlete
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I'm feeling so relieved now. You'll never be bitter, dear rabbit, I see you are much greater than that... 
Kisses,
Arlete
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| treblechar
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“Success means doing the best we can with what we have. Success is the doing, not the getting; in the trying, not the triumph. Success is a personal standard, reaching for the highest that is in us, becoming all that we can be.” - Zig Ziglar
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| whiterabbit
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thanks arlete
Dear dr_ayyad
Its up to you to do your research and make decisions accordingly...........If you got those high scores..man you are way smarter than me.....
I did my job of giving my perceptions on a situation which may or may not be applicable to you
GooD Luck
WR
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| ladydocz
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agree with arlete.I have a dream too and I will try my hardest, before calling it quits.
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| arlete
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Nice answer, rabbit!
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| CocaCola
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Hey Whiterabbit
I sincerely hope things work out for you... you have overcome a lot of hurdles - have alot to be proud of!!!
No matter the outcome you have a sound future in medicine - whether thats in america or elsewhere!!!
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| CocaCola
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Arlete you are amazing... always know exactly the right thing to say... I wish you would bottle this ability and sell it to me!!!
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| whiterabbit
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OMG arlete Are you going commercial with your sweetness!! 
God bless you all
WR
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| CocaCola
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god bless you too WR!
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| new_n_lost
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Man honestly if i had a big or enuf room i would have invited you to my state and spend time cos honestly i know the feeling and issues we all have. Didnt see this thread earlier was going through some threads saw it. Dude i wish you the best in life and i do hope God does Bless this Country and its People.
Good Luck Mate.
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Thanks mate Ill be going back to India in 1-2 months.
GL to all
WR
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| niksmg
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hey white rabbit,dont worry boss...u will surely MAKE IT this TIME...!!!ONLY GR8 FIGHTERS FINISH DA RACE WITH GR8 ACCOMPLISHMENTS DUDE...!!! V r ALL WITH U....thanks alot for posting ur experience...ALL UR STRUGGLE WILL SURELY GIVE U GUD RESULTS...!!!V will all pray for u...!!!ALL DA BEST...!!!
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| arlete
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CocaCola: I bet you have a lot of that in you, too! It will eventually come out, when the opportunity to use it present itself (and it will, you're a physician!).
Dear rabbit: I won't go "commercial ", I hope I'll go "medical institution"... Did that make any sense in English? Take care!
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| Hotobhaga
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whitterrabit.....there may be a lot more for you in INDIA.....would like to talk to you when u are here. u may mail me on praneeth0055@yahoo.co.in and leave your india contact number.
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| CocaCola
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hi arlete
i hope you are right... because now i am a series of "duhs uhs"
Anyway i truly admire you for your ability to know exactly what to say, what the other person really needs to hear... you come across with a lot of sincerity and i thank you for it!!!
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| Lex
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WR I hope things get better for you and that you would try to match or find out of cycle positions. Don't give up!
I am going to use the same advice I gave you for myself....I tried for scramble (didnt try for Regular cycle match)...but I got no positions.
My problem is attempts....its only human nature to feel down, so I will allocate some time for that
But I truly believe everything happens for a reason...some we can't explain good or bad....only thing we can do is have hope and try
With time hope will come back.........and things will get better (And no this is not an Obama speech )
I wish you good luck in your future endeavors!! :nod
Arlette you are very articulate in expressing your thoughts, great advice
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| P4a99
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I'm sorry to hear that all of that happened to you. I felt the pain in the words. Thank you very much for the sencere advice. It is highly appreciated.
GL to you where ever you end up
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| bbb
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whiterabbit wrote:I have a few things to say. Firstly to BBB..........I truly like you. There are only a few people on earth who are as sweet as you. God Bless you. I may have hurt you. .... Please forgive me. .....and.Please don't set your dogs on me. Secondly to new applicants..............Guys things are getting tough here...Unless your credentials are exceptional please don't apply. Don't waste your Dads money and see his tears when you don't match.........I had to watch my Mom cry when her life savings went up in smoke when I did not match this year.
The white rabbit the I know could never have done anything to hurt me. The BBB doesn't get hurt often.
Also, it is rough to get a residency in the USA. It's hard, hard, hard work. But it's not impossible, and every year persons are hired by my program who have never worked in the USA. It's rough, it's hard, it's emotionally draining. But it can be done.
Good luck - there is something out there for you.
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| mytime
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arlete wrote:Dear whiterabbit: I am sorry to read about your ordeal, how tough it was and how, at this point in your life, you can't see any good on it, only the abuse, the money wasted, the unfulfilled dreams. I hope things will get into another perspective as time passes by... But with the rule "don't apply unless" you are in such and such conditions... I could not agree at all. Each person knows his reasons for trying. A dream is a dream and sometimes giving up before trying everything one could would kill him inside, more than wasting money, more than wasting time, more than being abused. It's very personal. I hope you'll be able to compensate your parents for enduring it all with you. Even though they suffered, I am sure they felt good for being able to help you. That's how parents are. I don't think your mom cried for the money. She cried for your situation.Talk to her about it. Say "I'm sorry" if you need to. One day they will need you, too, money involved or not, and you'll be there for them, I'm sure. One day you'll be as dedicated to your sons/daughters as they were to you, they taught you how to love and dedicate. Just summarizing: nothing is in vain. Even the lost battles are worth ones. Eventually that will sink in. What we want sometimes is not what is best for us, but God knows when, where and why. Sometimes we have the answers down the road, sometimes, we don't... We just need to believe. Maybe it was not for you. But you wouldn't have known without trying. I am praying for you, time heals and matures (I am not calling you immature, don't get me wrong) and our tendency is to get better and better through the years. A huge hug, God bless you. Arlete.
BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I won't say much after that, and all else that's said.
Rabbit, U'll give back more than u took and that will keep you humble all your life. Next time you need a place to stay pm me! I don't have enough space or money, as well but will make room for u.
GOD BLESS!!
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