janaki
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thankyou so much all of you .i was very down this past week coz i felt there was no continuity in my studying .but i hate giving up things i will and am ready to fight and run this race as supriya put it .i am so lucky to have great friends like you .i used to recite a poem written by swamivivekananada which goes something like this .pain and pleasure forever go linked if u want aand wait for the days with just pleasure they will never never come .but for some reason i forgot that .i think i was studying good and things were in my control and i began to feel that i can control my studying and i can just expect pleasure which is success in studying .i think i still want to control my studying but i will do my best and not think of the result all the time .i will give my 100%effort everyday and i will leave the rest to god .
things to remember:
samay se pehle yaa samay ke baad na kuch hua hai naa kuch hoga
obstacles are th eones you see when you loose concentration and focus
dont let small things bother me
believe in god you are his child and he will take care of you .chant gods name always
one more thing from swamivivekananada:if u fall 1000times get up just once more and try it and u will succeed
yes i can do this .
thanks mjbapana,guyton ,tia,milee,bhanuspriya,and kalyan .for you all i wish i had very good vocabulary to describe what you have done for me writing replies to my post .right now i am sleeping only to wake up and study again ....
thankyou all .
i heard somewhere that if someone is kind to you you will want to spread that kindness to everyone .lets all spread kindness and make it contagious .
good night for now .i have more to writ eto guyton and mj in reply to your posts i will take some time tomorrow or on monday and write to you guys .
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| mjbapana
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Hey!!Janaki, just glad that u r getting back.start where u left off don't go back to the begining. just do what u can each day and journal it so u can look back and feel proud of all that u have acheived.. study well!!
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| janaki
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i am down with flu .not so much energy to write anything
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| Guyton
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get well soon janaki !!! 
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| janaki
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feeling much beetr now .want to get back to books so much .full of energy .want to start my studying again .i met a friend of mine who did very well in step 1 she gave me some good advice and some points to consider in my preparation .feels good
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| janaki
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for some reason friday has a mixed effect on me .its the end of the week and i have my swimming class today which i love to do .but then saturdays and sundays is with my 2 monsters at home .sooooo demanding but i will come up with a plan to take them out of my home so they will not end up spoiling it and i wont end up cleaning it on monday .so here is my plan ,,,,on saturdays i will make a plan to go out the whole day i will pack some food and go out for a picnic and come back only to sleep so they dont destroy my house and sunday also the same .lets see how it goes .but as my good friend said no matter what day it is even if its a sick day there will be an hour in the day where you will feel good .look for that time and make sure i study .........
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| mjbapana
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Hi!! Janaki!! nice to see u back in full Josh!! have a good weekend get back on monday with full force. bye.
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| ShweHope99.9998
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Hi , rest alot b4 full recovery , study between rest .
Pl do not push self into full study unless ur in full recovery from ur cold, or flu .
My hard learned experinces since winter cold , flu in , so no way this would b my last cold since , this time I rest alot instead of trying to read more & , sleep , rest , eat [ to save time ] less after each cold, flu to compansate lost study days . But that just push me back in sick, cold, flu cylcle very easily since my premature full study b4 physical full recovery from cold , flu .
Recharge ur energy on wk ends while have fun with fm.
GL  
Edited by ShweHope99.9998 on 03/19/08 - 11:59 AM
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| bhanusupriya
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hi janaki,
how r u? recovered fully and enjoying studies?
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| Kalyann
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i hope everything is well with u
Edited by Kalyann on 03/27/08 - 04:34 AM
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| Guyton
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hmmm,
nowadays i am searching for janaki's post in her journal..............where r u gal !!!!!!!
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| tia
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hi jaaaaannnnnnnnnuuuuuuuu how are u??
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| janaki
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hi journal
i had really given up on studies for a while .many things happened at home front but the one that really took me away from books was i got a call from nikhils day care that he is being too aggressive at school and will be terminated in 2 weeks if his behavior doesnt improve .later on after few visits to the pediatrician we learnt that its because we were not spending any time with him ,adding so much stress at home coz of this studying ,waking up really early mornings ,draining myself out i was reallllllly stressing out and was showing that on my family .now i am much calmer without studying ,changed his daycare but even in his new daycare he had this trouble .he actually bit a girl so badly ,she was taken to emergency and aftera week she got the infection on her cheek ......so i am really worried still and waiting for the dreadful phone call from the day care which will again tell me some bad news .he will be suspended from this day care also if his behavior doesnt change according to the teachers .
my pediatrician recommened us to go to a childs psychologist and get some advice .but all my indian friends say i should just hit him when he does mishief like this but i am not sure if that is going to be very effective method of disciplining him .the worst that could happen now is if he gets suspended i will have to take care of him and so no studying at alllllllll .i am really confused ,,,,,,,,.
please someone advice .......
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| myeloma
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hi Janaki....
I usually dont read journals but i read urs by chance today and was tempted to reply to ur post.Ur son is showing aggressive behaviour and u dont know what to do.Well u can start by spending time with him and whenever he misbehaves or do somthing violent just remain calm tell him to stop (he might not stop at all but u have to keep ur calm) then when the tantrum is over you just sit besides him and tell him that mommy gets really hurt by such behaviour of his and good kids dont hurt ANYONE.also tell him that u love him v much but he has to stop hurting other ppl otherwise mommy and daddy will b really disapointed and hurt. u might have to tell him this more than once in different ways but u can only make him understand by understanding why he is doing what he is doing.and may be he will stop if he starts getting enough time and attention.
i know it is v difficult to balance family life with studies and i envy you guys who do it so perfectly and manage to study more than those ppl who have no responisbilities.this is just a phase and it will pass soon but it is important to tackle this issue right now and v delicately too.
and lastly watever ur friends advise u to do DONOT hit ur child. not olny will it cause psycological trauma to ur kid but it might also alert the children welfare ppl , which is the last thing u want to do.
i hope u dont mind my frank advise .sorry if my post offended u in anyway.
take care and goodluck.
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| mjbapana
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Hi!! Janaki,I understand what u r going through. What Nikhil is probably feeling is Neglect i understand ,but hitting him is not the answer esp if his behaviour it self is aggressive it will give him the permission and added stimulus to take it out on other people. i agree he needs a little more of u r time. consulting a good psycologist is a very good option. there is nothing wrong in that. what he needs is some on eto be with him. may be u can keep him home till he grows up little more and hire someone to watch him instead of sendidng to day care.or maybe u could ask someone from u r family to come watch for just a couple of months. those are just options. don't worry and lose heart. when it comes to our children studies allways have to take a back seat i understand.. the best advise i can give as regards u r studies is study when u can. don't take time out of u r sons schedule to do it. Do it in u r time, even if u have to do the compromising. look i gave up studying htese last 10 yrs for this reason. now my daughter is old enough to understand that i have to study, she would'nt have before. the same goes for Nikhil, he probably can't understand why his mom who used to be with him all the time has suddenly put him in day care and tjhat is why he is reacting this way.. Think about it and don't lose hearty. things all ways work out in the end. will talk to u soon.
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| Guyton
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well, i dont have experience in this regard......yet, i accept with myeloma and mjbapana!
never hit ....even our behavioural science audio says.....the same !
if mom hitting me is right thing, then me hitting others too is right .....
as myeloma said, ..try to talk to him more, explain him and make him understand ..in his words, and ....as mj said, u can ask someone from your family to come.
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| antidepressant
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hello janaki, i hope your situation is getting better,mj and myeloma said some good advice. i dont have kid, but i watch super nanny, and one thing you cant do it showing violence or anger towards them, agree with myeloma, you have to be calm, and give him "time out" you have to spend time with him, and as myeloma said exactly, you have to let him know you love him, but if he dont obey, you have to give time out, and you have to persistent on what you tell him, you shouldnt change your punishment (time out) if he starts crying, or you are tired. If you can find help to how to deal with child in this situation. I think, its a good idea to go to psychologist, we never knew how to raise a child, so why not take help, hitting is not a good advice, dont listen to those people.
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| janaki
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thankyou all for your kind words .i knew in my heart that i wont hit nikhil and i am not going to .these days i am spending more time with him and in 2 weeks i am already seeing good change in him .so i feel better .for now i will just read usmle whenever i find time and will wait patiently for nikhil to come out out of this bad behavior completely .we feel that having kids and raising kids come naturally but its just another foriegn subject and i have realised is we dont know anything about it .thankyou all once again .
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| myeloma
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im glad things are working out for u dear friend. im sure u'll be ok .and so will ur son . even if this brings a gap in ur study ,u'll never regret it. good luck with all that u do in ur life.
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| P4a99
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I started this thread if you are interested:
http://www.prep4usmle.com/comments.php?id=70310
Regards.
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| ShweHope99.9998
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Hi janaki , if ur boy is in terrible 2 to 4 yr range , stay calm, play with him, keep all healthy happy especially self then , after he is settle , happy , talk to him re he & u will study together like give him books to see , while u r raeding or some time explain ur notes , not too much , some to him that firt his age .
Tell him that u r a doctor that want to get permit to treat pt here , so need to b done exm .
But u sh give him fix time or in beteen time of study to play with him physically .
This age is important b4 school age to set his mind rt, happy , understanding with knowing u all love him .
As mj said if nothing work , he sh b priority since it is v.critical age , u can still read few pages aday while he is napping or b4 wake up or after fall asleep at nt .
Aso have frds, fm, take turns gathering of children fun time for few hr , half day or so more frds pooling re this fun days at each house , take turns , more off time for u .
Since his tamper is due to seperation with u, do set Friday or wk end one morning or 1 day out with him as whole fm outting . Make it a sfix time, we still do ahve our once a wk fm nt out with day out when we all r free at same time even my child is not a baby any more .
We do that since he was around ur son age as routein & b4 that as as randomly .
After all still he will not allow u to touch the book then , take time in few mo he will after u talk to him re how important he is, so u need to do exm done by time he still young , so he will b proud of u & b proud of self as MD , USA super mom's son .
By the way , tell me extreme , day care especially big one r not compare with home care or baby sit or home , private small size day care . But no fix rule which is better , since all depends on the day care, staffs, children & ur luck .
Oh , for sure he will need lots of educational toys, books, gagets etc of his age one to keep him active too , that he will not even remeber u , believe me .
But still set time for bed time story by u, play physically with him which is also ur excercise time [ I miss it, it makes me sooooooooooo fit family day out as zoo , etc, parks .
Paint , draw pic with him, watch one good show 30 min only with him like education etc one u two choose.
Oh all not in one day , seperate day set or random , see how it works .
Also cook, prep just for him like fruit, soup, noodle etc.
Train him to read , he will love to , he will b ready for preschool too by time u also done ur set 20 page or so aday of reading, u two can even listen to papi, watch lect or lsiten to it together too .
Last , not least, do not forget to tell him how much u love him & hug, kisses [ only this time, mam , no more as soon as hit the school , not at all at certain age from u  ] .
I usually not visit much to frds' site much like last yr I have time , so do pm , if need any or just to scream or laugh re ur situation with joy or etc [ better not b] , think happy , positive , u r his mirror , he will b as on ur face , inside mind , they knows , but just not talk express like we women do .
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