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Anamgarcia
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need help... I would get pregnant on say august, that way nobody will notice that you are pregnant and you will still have the baby before being an intern... that was my plan last year 
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| E2O
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August sounds good that way you are are about done with the nausea before the interview season kicks off in oct nov.
Now another question when is the best time to get pregnant in first year. I am thinking oct/nov what do you think
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| ummah
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wow what a calculation Ana  . by the way sometimes it doesn't work i mean when u want to get pregnant you won't and when u doesn't want and trying not to get pregnant u will.
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| chiqui
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E20 - I'm sure you did better than you think on Step 3. I'll keep my fingers crossed anyway.
Needhelp - interview season starts around October and goes through February or even as late as March. It would probably be best not to be visibly pregnant for your interviews. As for travels - there is no way to predict how your own pregnancy will go. It is risky to schedule anything important during the third trimester. For most women, travel is fine during first two trimesters.
I would also pose one other question for you - are you prepared to start a PGY-1 with a newborn at home? Do you have a support system in place to help you? Have you had kids before? Do you have medical (or chronological) reasons why you have to have a baby this year, and not, perhaps, wait until PGY-2 to get pregnant? I only ask because the demands of a newborn and the demands of PGY-1 are both huge, and I personally would only attempt to do them at the same time if there were no other possible choice. And I am pretty aggressive about these things - I had both of my kids while in medical school and managed to finish with honors and with my Steps 1 and 2 passed - and not even I would try to do PGY-1 with a newborn. I think you would miss too much. More importantly, I think you would be asking your baby to make too big of a sacrifice.
That said - if you are already pregnant, or if you have thought it through and determined this is what you need to do - then of course, where there is a will, there is a way, and I am sure both you and your child will do just fine.
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| arlete
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May I say something that will be very unpopular in this thread?
Oh, my God, I am so relieved I am through with all this! I mean, it's very hard on us, female doctors, to decide when to fit the pregnancies and babies in our career... If one thinks too much, there's never a really appropriate time. If you are in the beggining, you are in the beggining, if you reach the apex, you don't want to slow it down, and maybe by then your age will be more advanced than it should... Not fair!  Man should get pregnant too, for example, take turns. But then nobody would have more than 3 kids! I mean, women would have the first and the third, man would never go for the fourth! Oh, that's a silly thought! Mother nature chose us for a reason, we are much more well equipped for it, and I don't mean only phisically...
Anyway... Good luck to all the girls around here, deciding or being pregnant, planning or postponing. The only thing I can say is: it's worth. It's wonderful. It's tiring. It's frustrating. But the rewards are uncomparable! 
God bless us all.
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| ganesha123
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godddd...this is sooo confusing..!!!!! when is the RIGHT time..????? i put it off til i got my steps done with.. now i am postponing till interviews are done....now even 1st year sounds like a bad idea.......
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| arlete
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I had my first child when I was 28 years old, six years after graduation, 3 years after finishing the residency program. I was in the priviledged position I was able to choose to work part-time during his first two years of life. Then I moved to USA, had 2 more kids and now I have this huge gap in the cv, I may end up paying the price for my choice.
So I am not exactly the right person to say when it's the right time, because I couldn't conciliate kids with career (and husband's career, traveling three weeks a month). But I think if we think too much, we give up being moms altogether!
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| ganesha123
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good to c lot of gurls sharing my dilemna tho...!! 
point taken arlette
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| arlete
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| E2O
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same here. Had my daughter 3yrs ago then over here alone hub joined 1yr later then i had to do the steps, now I have 1st yr when most think is a bad idea including my husband who is going to be in first yr with me.
People at home have started saying prayers for me so.....
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| maki
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I am silent fun of this thread. I am mother of 3 years old boy and 5 month old girl. For the last 3 and half years I am staying at home trying to be a good mom and to finish my usmle exams. Many of my freinds finished all the steps in one year and I am still waiting for my cs result. some times I get frustrated about my choices but when I see the beutiful smiles of my adorable kids I feel proud of myself.
So sometimes I am like and some times I am like and sometimes
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| arlete
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maki:
Been there, done that! The first 3 1/2 years I stayed home were the most difficult. Then the kids got older and started showing the positive signs of good, close, careful parenting, and that is priceless!
So most of the times I am and now.
Let's see how I'll be in March...!!! 
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| Anamgarcia
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OOOO my lovely ladies... I can't resist to tell what I think... (chiqui, don't hate me for this) I agree with arlete. it is worth every sacrifice, every strech mark, every pain. Kids are a wonderful blessing, and I totally would not postpone to get pregnant because of my career. As chiqui nsaid, when there is a will there is a way, and better have your kids when you really can enjoy all of it and note when you are older and more tired of running around.
There is never a perfect time, and mother nature calls are very hard to ignore, so if I had to do it again, I would definitelly jump to it, I just love to be pregnant and having these tiny blessings with you.
Ummah, this is going to sound a little too much for many of you, but it actually works beautifully for us.
We use this thing called the creighton model of fertility care. ( it is a much better version of Ohino) and it does work. Basically you just have to chart every night your most fertile sign. and believe me, it is soo accurate that you can actually say OK, today I will get pregnant. and you will. ( assuming you and your hubby have a normal fertility), actually even in the case that there are some fertility issues, this method, works better than IVF.
give it a try! and you will get pregnant in august
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| Anamgarcia
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E20.... I think your plans of oct/nov are perfect, that way you will have a handle on the internship matters and will be ready to be a ghhappy second year with baby
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| needhelpplease
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Thanks a lot everybody for the reply and Anamgarcia.......it sounds like a good plan.
chiqui---Honors and gr8 scores!!!thats awesome ...CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Coming to me I have never been pregnant before.I was worried if could take the stress of being pregnant and PGY 1 at the same time.I am 26 and I dont want to be an elderly primi.My parents and in- laws can support me.
As you all say where there is a will,there is a way.......hope i can manage both and maintain a perfect balance.
Hopefully by gods grace all moms ,just now moms and moms to be will be and after the match
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| Anamgarcia
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good plan......
what is gopin on with you arelete? do you have the date for step3 yet? are you in summer mood already? today is my official last day in the lab... I am soo relieved that I need a nap ...
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| arlete
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Step 3 on June 18th and 19th. Studying here and there, among all the 453 things I do in a day. The kids are around now that they are on vacation, very very good companies indeed! I am teaching a friend to speak Portuguese and reading "Saving Graces", cute book. Every now and then coaching somebody for CS.
Last day in the lab, what a relief! Just think how many things won't be your business anymore from tomorrow on!
Kisses!
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| doc-o8
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HOW did i miss this wonderful thread????wt was i doing all these months when such a great company was available here...........
I am a mom of 18 months old son. and going for step three in july.even the thought of a second kid scares me...... although sometimes its fun to have a kid but with all these exams going on and match tension it takes the fun out of being a mother.
arlete...when i read your posts i see a very positive aspect of life that is really like a breath of fresh air.i wish i could meet you in person some day. you are just great.best of luck for ur exam.
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| arlete
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doc-o8:
We never know, the world has a way to put people together... Thank you, good luck to you too!
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| AnneGermany
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Hi girls,
just wanted to say: Thanks! I´m a nulli and I will still be for the next couple of years probably.
But I just feel so honored that we, as women, got the wonderful opportunity to bring children into this world.
Your different opinions and the passion and love that you share for your kids is just amazing!
Gives me courage for the future when I will be in the same situation!
Praying for us every night for the Match 2009!
All my best to everyone!
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| dara_bc2002
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Hey girls ! I wanna join in even though I'm not a mom , YET .
I wanna go for the 2009 match as well . The last step I have to give is to re-take Step 1 , which I failed 2 years ago . I passed CS and also passed Ck with a 95 . I"m thinking of taking Step 1 at the end of July to have the result by Sptember 1 .
Last month my husband and I had a pregnancy scare and with that we realized we're more than ready to have a baby . We're both 26, IMGs and we graduated in 2006 and both going for the next match . I wanna go into Psychiatry , my husband will try his luck in Preliminary Surgery as categorical is absolutely off limits .
We figured we could try to conceive in July ( before re-taking Step 1 --- I know ..it sounds crazy to go take the step with morning sickness ) and have the baby by April . We were just thinking that if we don't do it now we probably won't do it for years because during residency with 2 doctors in the family is hard to even meet enough to ....conceive .
So the decision is made , but the fear is great . That would mean interviews while in the 5th month or pregnancy and all . The way I see it , at least I'll have 3 peaceful months at home with my baby instead of only 2 that a residency program would give me .
Does anyone know how hard it is in Psych PGY1 ? Is it insane to wanna have a baby now ?
It's weird to talk about all this without even knowing IF we can conceive . I feel old already doing this at 26 so I really don't want to wait anymore but i could really use some encouragement since this whole Steps process is daunting ! It's the hardest thing i've ever done !
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| E2O
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Hi, arlete hope your exam today went well ALL THE BEST IN TOMORROWS!!
I know you will have a great score
Edited by E2O on 06/18/08 - 08:57 PM
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| Anamgarcia
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Arlete!!!!!! I know you rock it! GL tomorrow...
Dara.... just go to creighton model.com and check out their chart... you will get pregnant in no time! also... don't feel old you are at a great age for babies as for your plan... it is perfect timing!....GL
Anne.... you are welcome here but try to join the club
oooo girls BTW my hubby matched in pulmonary at yale!!!!! I am going for some drinks now.... I might get lucky tonight!
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| E2O
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wow Ana you seem to be reaping blessings all round!!!
Glad to hear the Good news
careful about being lucky you might REALLY get lucky
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| foucesed doc
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If you can go with someon like husband or anyone who can take care,take ur baby with you as well.
I did that last year ,My baby was 6 month old,and my husband took care of her.
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