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I'm sorry to hear that ANA, I know it's gonna take time untill it sinks in...but whenever something like this happens to me I always tell my self that God will have something much better than this in store for me but as i can't see the future right now so i'm feeling that way but God will definitely bring nice things my way too.....please don't lose hope, although, i'm not a mom yet, am trying to become one these days but I respect all you moms who had the courage & stamina to do that & didn't lose hope in the midway...u'll always be in my prayers Ana...& something great will definitely come your way soon!!!...Amen
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| chiqui
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Ana - I was just thinking about how hard it has been for me to adjust to a second child. I was 36 when my first child was born, and was ready for it. My daughter fit me like a glove, and I transitioned into motherhood very easily. But the second child hit me like a ton of bricks from the first day I got home with him. I remember being in the bathroom, having just come home, and both children started to cry at the same time. That's when I understood what having two children was going to be like. He is 13 months old already, and I still have a hard time moving around with two babies, going to the supermarket, doing housework, etc. I constantly feel like I need another arm and two more eyes. And you know what else - both of my children were born at hours that were VERY convenient for me, but awful for my OB. My daughter was born at midnight on a Friday night. My son was born on a beautiful Sunday afternoon. Maybe God is trying to tell you something.
Allymd: don't keep us in suspense. Tell us where you matched as soon as you know!
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| Anamgarcia
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hey everybody... God better speak clear to me.... this is awful.... and eventhough I am better, it doesnt seem like I will be able to keep a rutine with this new jobeless visaless and matchless situation.... Thank you all I have read your PM... and you emails... you are very kind...
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| shpp
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All moms,
Hats off to you. Did not realize I would be joining this thread soon. As I came across this thread and read through the posts, I am so thrilled there is such a strong mom support group.
Chiqui and Arlete: Your positive energy just invigoriates me....hope I can get in the same mode
Ana: I really enjoy reading your posts elsewhere, and was so sure you would match. I am sorry for what happened, but as everyone says, may be its just God's way of letting you welcome your baby without all the night calls. I hope and pray all your problems get solved soon, so you can focus well for next year.
I am a old IMG grad who decided to go for the match this year. I had only 5 i.vs, but by the grace of God I matched at my no 1 choice. I just found out that I am aorund 10 week pregnant (ya, wasn't keeping track of anything during the stressful match season). Instead of being happy in preparing to be a mom, I am now stressed out!! Has anyone heard ofor met anyone delivering during intern year and yet surviving through residency?? Its freaking scary.
Taurus: I noticed that you are pregnant too, and that you matched. How do you intend to handle this? Have you told your program director yet? Should I let them know?
Please moms....give me your thoughts:
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| arlete
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Hi, shpp...
God bless you and your baby... Congratulations!
Yes, I've seen a few women get pregnant and give birth for their first time during internship, and everything was fine. Not easy (never is), but it was fine.
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| shpp
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Arlete,
Thanks for the quick reply. Nice to know I am not the only one. Its sad that pregnancy needs to be this stressful. I guess I don't need to be apologetic to the PD?
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| arlete
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No, don't be apologetic, it will make him/her feel the event as an even bigger burden. Present it as a fact, you don't need to get into personal details such as it was/wasn't planned. Remember, you have a professional relationship, not a friendship (yet). Ask what it changes, what it is that you can do to make things work best for everybody and go as smooth as possible. You will probably not be the first pregnant intern they have, nor the last they will have. And you don't have to apologize at all, you've done nothing wrong.
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| shpp
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Arelete, Thanks.
Thats what I was talking about. You have such a positive attitude in life that its just amazing!! I feel a bit relieved already. I will contact my PD next week and see how this go. You are right, I am probably not the first or last one; and the programs probably are well experienced on how to handle pregnant residents.
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| arlete
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That's what I believe. They get interns in a very suitable age for pregnancy, and I've seen some even planning to get pregnant during the first year of residency.
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| chiqui
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Shpp- congrats on matching and congrats on your pregnancy. Welcome to the club! Don't say one word just yet. 10 weeks is way to early to know how things will play out. Residents get pregnant all the time, and while it is a pain for everyone, there isn't anything they can do about it. At this point, its nobody's business but yours. It doesn't become their business until it starts to interfere with your ability to perform your duties. At that point, you are covered by the law. The worst that can happen is that your end date gets a little pushed back and that your classmates get annoyed with you if they get extra calls because you are on leave. Cross that bridge when you get to it.
If you think about it, its perfect. PGY-1 is traditionally a little more time consuming than PGY-2, so you will actually get most of those q4 out of the way before you have the baby (at least that's how it is in psych). By the time baby hits his toddler phase you will be on call a lot less, and you'll be done with residency by the time he's a preschooler. What you will need is a good support system and help with all of the non-essential stuff. Ideally, you would be able to delegate everything but the residency and the baby care to someone else. Nursing will help keep you connected and indispensable to baby, even if it means pumping at work (which I swear is no big deal).
So enjoy this time. First pregnancy doesn't happen everyday, and it makes you a very special person. If you haven't already done so, get a copy of "What to expect when you are expecting" and La Leche League's "Womanly Art of Breastfeeding". Both books contain a wealth of information not contained in any OBGYN book. Grab a few pottery barn kids catalogues while you are at it, so you can plan your nursery, as well as a baby name book for when you are feeling really "Preg-zilla". If you don't enjoy this time it will not come back and give you a second chance.
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| shpp
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Wow chiqui and arlete....
I am overwhelmed by the support of you gals.......I no longer feel stressed out or the "lone pregnent intern" now. May be 10 weeks is a little too early? May be I should wait at least until the first trimester crosses. But I also wanted them to know before they make the schedule, in case they need to make any adjustments around my due date. but may be I am thinking way too much??
BTW, you moms rock. You gals are my inspiration now on....I CAN BE a wonderful mom and a great resident/physician at the same time; as long as I learn how to get some help for the daily stuff.
CHIQUI: since your hubby can't come to the US with you, how do you intend to take care of your kids during your residency?
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| chiqui
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shpp - I would REALLY not plan to talk about your pregnancy with your bosses. Sooner or later it will come up, and the law already tells them what they can do and what they can't do to you. Since they don't really know you yet, they probably won't be persuaded to do any more than that for you. The only thing that you can do to make things easier is to do good work. Be the first one there, be the first one done, be the best. Being responsible, carrying your work load, doing it well and not driving everyone crazy will be enough. And it is in your best interest to learn to work well and work quickly, as you will not want to waste one minute at the hospital once the baby is born.
As for me, I am fortunate enough to have an extensive support system, so the children will be taken care of. Our emotional needs are what I worry about most.
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| Anamgarcia
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hello shpp:
thanks for your comments.. and as arlete and chiqui already said... please enjoy the pregnancy.... it is a moment that you will not experience again (unless you get pregnant and I anticipate it will not happen for a while) Being a mother is really a big chunk of our nature.... and you should honor this God given task as one of your top priorities... as far as the work, don't worry, things will fall in place as long as you enjoy what you have now... just keep in mind that you may want to ask for your vacation around your due date....
Arlete and chiqui... thanks for your support girls.... things are getting better now  keep the prayer up....
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| arlete
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Ana:
Good to hear from you. No doubt in my mind things are going to calm down as time passes and the storm is gone. I'll keep praying.
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| match09
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Hi all ,
Pls count me in ,moms . I really admire all you , big encouragement for me .
Congrats to all who matched and good luck for all are still studing .
I am a very old IMg( 1995) single mom with two kids ( 7 and 2 years) , staying in the US with student visa , english is still an issue .
Planning go to match next year but maybe need to change to match 10 ( being behind my plan).
This thread makes me more confident and stronger but still wonder if it is possible for me to go the match with very old year of graduation and visa needed '
Take care , moms
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| chiqui
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Match09: Anything is possible . . . unless you don't even try. Go at it as hard as you can, and put the rest in God's hands. Welcome to the forum.
Arlete: My prediction is that as soon as Anamgarcia's baby is born, she will forget all about this stupid match and about slicing stupid mouse kidneys and will thank God every day for not having to go to a stinky hospital every morning. I also predict that by the time next year's interview season rolls around she will be on her knees praying for God to please let her match so that she can start sleeping at the hospital every four nights, which will undoubtedly be more restful than having two kids in the house!
Ana - I get to NJ on June 15. We'll have to get together for margarita's shortly thereafter. Don't worry if you are breasfeeding - pump and dump one! As they say in Santo Domingo, hay que botar el golpe!
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| Anamgarcia
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hello dear friends... I am back
big... pipona (means big tummy) very sleepy but fine... as far as match 2009 post... you go girl.... anything can happen if you let it.... that is right.... try it we will be supporting you from this therad right moms?
Arlete darling... as you told me on the phone... I don't want to be a resident in OB above my kids health and happiness. So I thank God for letting me see that my family also is my priority... as far as the stupid mice kidneys I think they will be around since I found a job with a pediatric nephrologist .... so no scape. But lets see the beauty of it girls... I will still have a paycheck at the end of the month and I will be working in preeclampsia... so it is an improvement b
even better I know this lady from 2 years and I think we have a good connection.... she also knows that I will try again this september and she is OK about it, so in the light of not having matched, it is a very good plan B... what do you think girls?
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| arlete
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I think you are in the right patch. The way time is flying these last years, I can keep the same Arbor Mist inside the fridge and use it for the celebration of your (our?) victory, the validity day will still be good!
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| chiqui
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Pipona - the new job sounds VERY promising. At least you don't have to eat the mouse kidneys. And its better than monkey brains (or cow legs). Here we would call you "Pansu'a".
Arlete: girl, that same Arbor Mist better not still be in the fridge when you match next year. Use if for pipona's virtual baby shower (Pipona - I hope its OK if you receive "virtual" gifts for your virtual shower. I'm going to prepare an awesome virtual cake, too.)
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| Anamgarcia
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I love you girls! from now until the end of april I will be pipona o pansu'a which ever you like best .... then agian lets drink the cocktails and eat the cake in the virtual babyshower... because there are many things to celebrate and we need to get ready for next years match... Arlete darling I am thinking of you... did you get it yet?
call me once you get it....
chiqui... we need to meet very soon hey Arlete... what does abrogado means?
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| arlete
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chiqui:
Virtual cake is a great idea! I ate tons of chocolate this Easter and gained a few far from virtual pounds!
Pipona:
Oh, I know! I know! Maybe you are talking about "obrigado", which means "thank you", or something like "obliged" as in "I owe you one, I am obliged to do something for you in return". If you are a lady, you must say "obrigada" instead of "obrigado".
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| Anamgarcia
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Hey arelete... Great now I will get the diet coke! I could not talk on the phone too much, you know the walls have ears in my lab and it is not official yet, since my new boss has to still talk to my old boss. But it is time to celebrate for us now.... :d
congrats ...
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| shpp
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Hi arlete, chiqui, ana,
Thanks for your thoughts. I completely agree with you all......it's my god given task and I better plan to be as good at it as I plan to be on the residency. I will just have to work really hard in the first few months to prove that I can be a great resident despite being pregnant.
anyways.....I'm really glad that things are finally working out well for ana. I bet you are a huge pipona (does that sound like a "round" ball?) I already feel heavy, at just 11 weeks!!. As for the paycheck, for the last 5 years, I have made my paycheck out of harvesting mouse hearts!!!!!!
Everyone.......keep the mom MD's spirit going.
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| Anamgarcia
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Yeees! MOM POWER... lets all celebrate for Arlete she is ready for this year's match now you guys shpp and chiqui will be our resident friends and will give us the tips to be a succesful resident mom... in the meantime, Alete and I will prepare for the 2009 race
mouse kidneys, moouse hearts, it is all the same  .... big big belly OMG
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| chiqui
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Don't forget chicken livers and cow legs . . .
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