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Being a mother and feelling guilty are synonims. No way to escape.
But they don't need us to be there for them all the time. They need us to be there when they need us the most. And WE need to be happy to be good moms.
So, cheers, you are their best mom, since they won't ever have another one to compare to!
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| chiqui
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I guess the guilt is part of the deal, but it still hurts.
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| arlete
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You bet! Hang in there, girl friend!
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| zazzle
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Hello ladies,
It is really a heart warming experience reading all the stories ..... gives me lot of boost to my morale... it gives lots of confidence and injects enthusiasm.
I also have a 6 month old girl...still trying to start my studies......going very slow...I want to give my exam by Jan`08 God only can pull me through this journey!!!!! good luck to all of you...We shall over come all the hurdles one day....real soon.
Edited by zazzle on 09/23/07 - 05:54 AM
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| chiqui
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Welcome Zazzle (and baby "zazzlette"). Its tough, but having to study with a baby forces you to improve upon your prior study techniques, no matter how effective they used to be for you. You get more efficient, more focused and more creative. We're glad to have you with us.
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| not much time
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i ve read this forum many times n i belive its very helpful.
i m preparing for step 2 planning to give on 15 nov. have not yet completed even one read only medicine done only few mcqs from UW.
i ve 5 month old daughter and its veryyyyyyyyyyyyy hard to study with her. i cant concentrate as iused to when doing step1 .
i ve already extended my eligibility period so cant extend furthermore. besides ive applied for match also.
so pls can anyone help me in giving suggestions on how to complete my prep. i am losing all my hope.
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| chiqui
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Not much time - welcome. First of all, don't give up hope. Second, you need help! I studied with a baby, but after he was about 3 months old he was too alert. I had to put him in daycare the last month so I could get 6-8 hours of solid study time per day. If you believe your baby is ready and would handle being cared for during the day by someone else, then 6 weeks may be enough time to get you through UW. If you don't think she is ready, if YOU aren't ready, or if you are both ready but don't have anyone who can give you that kind of help, then resign to the fact that you are a mom, be grateful for this special time in your life with this new baby, take the time to lay the foundation for your child's future, and get a 90 next year.
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| Allymd
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Hi girls... I couldnt stand anymore not knowing how prepared I was for the exam and got compelled to do NBME form 2 (cause want to leave form 1 for a few days b4 exam)... got 510 (220/89). I finally got someone to take care of my baby 8 am to 6 pm, so hopefully I can improve it as much as possible. But dont know where to start, I have left Peds, IM and Surgery and all the questions. Maybe just do UW and FA... any suggestion? BTW this weekend my mom took care of my baby and I MISSED HER SO MUCH! I cant wait until I finally get out of this exam, to hold my baby and not let her go IN A WHILEEEEEEEEE!!!
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| arlete
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Allymd: you are already in good shape! Do uw now.
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| E2O
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This post really rocks and is quite encouraging
I have a 2and 1/2 year old daughter lived with her alone in the US working and reading
I was able to get 6wks from work and took step 1 was not the best of scores but ok. took cs one month after in july and will be taking step 2 next wed
My NBME's have been 430 450 and 480 today 4 , 2and 1/2c and i wk before
I am already appling for the match so i dont have much time in terms of moving the test. Honest opinions please by which i mean if you are in my shoes what will you do
Thanks
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| arlete
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Go for it, you are running against time. Congrats on the accomplishment so far. You are so brave! Try and do as many questions possible, uw is very good. Good luck!
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| chiqui
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Allymd and Eberenwala: I would do questions, questions, questions with the time you have left. Good luck!
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Hi Moms, especially chiqui and arlete, for setting up a thread for us moms.
I have two, 7-year-old daughter and 5-year-old son. I am lucky to have family around to help so I have big chunk of time to study.(sadly those time was wasted a lot by my wondering, daydreaming). And, the kids want mommy all the time. I enjoy having them around. I know my son loves me to hold him and allow him to sit on my lap, my daughter loves me to read to her even though she already is a very good reader. They want to play soccer, they want to join clubs, they want to play with their friends. But their activities have to be limited because of busy studying mom.
Today I feel guilty for not being a good mom again. This feeling really kills me and make me depressed. I had hesitated for many years to pursue this physician dream because I am afraid that my kids will be neglected. Now I am on this path, I won't regret for my decision. I just wish I could finish everything ASAP so I can be an always-available mom again.
Thanks again for this precious thread. Hope we can encourage each other and reach our goal and at the same time try to be a patient, understanding mom to our kids. Happy studying, friends. We have to make good use of our time, for us, for our kids, and for our family.
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| njcjzy
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Read again the posts here, so inspiring. I know there are a whole lot more busy moms out there multitasking their hectic life. I better go off line and study now!
I admire all of you and best wishes.
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| arlete
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njcjzy:
Hi!
You kids are 7 and 5 and had you as a dedicated stay-at-home mom all this time? If yes, they are very very lucky, most doctors' children do not. They must feel very loved and one day will fully appreciate how unselfish you are and what a big sacrifice you made for them. Try not to let guilty sink in, I know it's easier said than done, since it's so natural to happen, but we have to find a balance between what we want (and need) and what we think an ideal mom would do. They don't need an ideal mom, they need the happy version of us. And some people are fully happy only being a doctor, like me.
So congrats on what you've done so far, and good luck on the next endeavors, never doubt your merit as a mother. I don't!
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| njcjzy
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Hi arlete, I had been working all the time. Quit my postdoc job and began my full-time study this Feb. Before I sat for the preparation, I was not a stay-at-home mom, but tried to meet most of their needs.
You are absolutely right, a happy mom is better. The kids learn from us by observing. And the most important thing we as mom wants them to have is a happy life with an everlasting optimistic attitude, so they can deal with whatever difficulties in their life with ease and confidence. So better to be content and happy ourselves, right?
Thanks again for your encouragement. Best wishes to you and all the moms here.
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| arlete
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| chiqui
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Hi njcjzy - my mom has always worked harder than anyone I know. I think that taught me that being lazy is perhaps the worst sin that can be committed. She taught me that if you can be organized and focused and a little bit flexible, you can acomplish many things. When I have been tired, when I have wanted to give up or take the easy road, all I have to do is think "what would my mother do", and I find energy to do a little bit more. I believe a mom leads by example. So go out there and show your kids how its done. I'm sure your kids will be fine and will be proud, and that you will figure out how to adjust your schedule to their changing needs.
Hey guys - I got my CS score today and passed, so I celebrated by getting an avatar and a signature line, both from Mucha Lucha, my daughter's favorite new cartoon!
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| arlete
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Congrats, chiqui!
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| njcjzy
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Thanks, chiqui for your inspiring words and wise insights.
Congratulations for passing CS, chiqui. BTW, I enjoy your new avatar.
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| hgheith
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chiqui! I am soo happy for you! I am glad you passed and you are an inspiration to us all!! good luck with the match!!
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| Allymd
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hi girls... just an update on me... I already have a REAL date: paid the exam and scheduled it for NOVEMBER 7TH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so please pray for meeee... and hopefully I can celebrate my baby´s third month next day without preocupations, I cant wait!!! I am doing UW right now, found someone to take care of baby from 8 am to 6 pm, so I get a lot of time to do it, but its hard to hear your baby cry in the next room and not feeling compeled to go out and give her a hug, so yes, I´ve wasted a lot of time (well, prob is not wasted) but definitely have more time than before. Have only done 5 blocks and my score is 63%. Lets see how it keeps going. So what about u guys preparing?? Updates please, this forum is getting kindda slow  . And how about match chiqui? internship? Hope everyone is doing great and GOOD LUCK!
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| arlete
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Way to go, Allymd, 63% in uw is great!
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Allymd - sounds like things are moving along just fine. I will keep my fingers crossed that your exam goes well. I can't believe your baby is alreay going to be 3 months old! Felicidades!
I am doing well. I have 5 interviews lined up so far, so I can't complain. I still haven't been able to get the Dean to write his letter, and my LORs just went out TODAY. I'm furious with the medical school - you would think they aren't interested in having us succeed. I can only imagine what it will be like trying to get a diploma from them in less time than it usually takes. I'd better stock up on Diazepam now! As far as school is concerned, I finished my surgery rotation and have moved on to OBGYN (Allymd - the new Morgan hospital is AWESOME!!!).
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| arlete
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Very well done, chiqui! Good luck, keep us posted...
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