alifaris
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Hi,
I really want to know if there is someone who took usmle and he is married because I think marriage takes must of your time and prevent you from preparing for the exam
I am not married but I am thinking If my opinion is right or I am just exagurating things ?
and another thing what is the best time of taking the exam ,is it in Internship?
Thanks a lot
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| inkspot
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i got married in october! started my offical prep from jan! its going good so far. but make sure that u give dedicated time to your studies that should be ur first priority. My wife mashaAllah is very supportive and understands me well. but still i like to lock the room and study alone in the room, coz wifez can sometimes be sticky  so all in all marriage should not stop you from your goals.
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| alifaris
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Thanks Inkspot,That 's supportive but i need to know your results
Any other married guys did it? Or u r all singles?
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| pearl20
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marriage can be very very distracting...especially when u r newly married!
tough decision..whether to lock ur room and get burried in 30 pounds of books or to
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| verapamil
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I'm married with my second boy on the way and they are my blessings and motivation! i just took my step 1 5 days ago and hope to pass so i can move on to the next level... 
Good luck and God bless to all of you!
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| Isther
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I am married with one child... and I recently matched... I started my preparation when my child was 1 yo... All of you are right when you say that family is quite distracting. I decided that what matters is to obtain a high score and get in a program as fast as possible with the idea of giving my family a good quality of life...and the only way was to dedicate 100% to it. So I moved for 5 months to my folks place and studied my butt off. My wife worked full time and took care of the baby. It was very hard... and you can't imagine how hard. But the idea that I was doing that for them and that I had to make the sacrife worth it helped me to continue... my scores was 97/99/pass.
It was a great sacrifice for me, but I did it for them and now we will enjoy the results...
Hope it helps ... Good Luck!
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| unique1
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Marriage brings a lot of responsibilities along. It definitely gets tougher to study after marriage. There is not doubt that people do study and pass with flying colors after getting married and having kids but it is not easy. It is tougher than one can imagine.
If you are not married yet, better postpone it till after your steps.GL.
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| alifaris
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 Oh my god.....!!!!
Thanks guys.....But Does it worth it ...??
I mean for how long I should postpone the marriage ....another 2 years for the exam 
And the result is not guranteed, I mean it is n't an easy exam ,Right?
and even If I passed it successfully .....Will I ever get a job in US...Why they would pick me for a job ,just because I have Usmle ..I think there are hundreds better than me ....
besides I do not want to marry in the 30s
Help me please give me advice...I love to have Usmle ...
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| unique1
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unique wrote:
There is not doubt that people do study and pass with flying colors after getting married and having kids
Decision is yours .
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| mytime
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Ur priorities and only u can set them straight. Whichever is more imp now go for it...........learn from others experiences and make ur own, each of us is different as our problem and our way to deal with them.........All we can say is u can do it anytime, tough or not.............u got to be ready and we are all here for u.
Marriage entirely u decision. If the guy is worth it grab him...if not kick him!
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| new_n_lost
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Look Buddy If u have Found the One THE ONE FOR U then i will go for her u can redo a exm but cant get the same person twice. Butlet me tell u one thing If u r Married TO USMLE then IT doesnt like its COunterpart to be distracted n rewards it in a way that u never forget just like any wife/husband now if u r lucky n u hav e understanding life partner then go for USMLE but MLE DEMANDS AN UNEQUIVOCAL ATTENTION.
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| new_n_lost
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inkspot wrote:but still i like to lock the room and study alone in the room, coz wifez can sometimes be sticky so all in all marriage should not stop you from your goals.
So true Mate So True !!!!!!!!!!
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| Feyza
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agreed with nnl  I found THE ONE ! I canceled everything ! that was 6 yrs ago...now I have the sweetest 4 yr old and my dear dear husband ! It definetely did worth it BUT Im 31 and restart everything was damn hard ! count the (+)s and the (-)s for you and consider every detail bc life is another story for each of us...if ur a HE it maybe a little easier bc its the SHEs to give birth to the cuties and deal with them mostly
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| Feyza
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see I told you you HEs can lock your doors ...we cant kidding
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| alifaris
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Thank you guys ...
Infact I am a HE...
you are right nnl...
Yes I think I found a One but I want and don't want....Confused 
she has a big green eyes with permanent smile on her face mixed with simplicity and good sense of humor ...and..oh my god....I am really confused
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I think I will wait a bit and see (I mean the girl) what will happen ...Yes this is my decision
But I am convinced that studing Usmle is CONTRAINDICATED with the first year of marriage as pearl20 said
and I think If I marry her I would never ever close the door as inkspot ..yes feyza.basoglu some of us do not close doors infact they open them
and special thanks to Verapamil ...He sends me a private message telling me That God will never let you down as long as you are doing the right thing whether you are getting married or getting Usmled
I will wait and think about it again ...C u
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| new_n_lost
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Ali ............... Dude U r not being realistic u r being Fazed by Big Green eys n all but Honestly do u have idea of wht is behind the curtain or the glasses u r looking at her. Buddy i m a He but make sure u know the person from inside not superifically. Beauty is superficial but long lasting good to look at but not necessarily worth living with.
My 2 Cents
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| ShweHope99.9998
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True NnL, especially for he who see the she now as the beauty or not , but at the moment , he will thought she is the most beautiful woman in the world.
Ali , no offence, beauty or not, especially for guy in this medical field, definately not only from your side of like, love, know her but you'll need some one who really like, love you, will understand you as you're busy , on call any time or not, you're going to be encountered with alot of XX , XY as collegue, pts, that likes deeply giving care as family wise way , so sometimes some partner did not understand, cannot take it as , it is the way of this proffesional life .
Write pro, con, then can see what you want , but marrige is not the calculation, comes from your heart , so with open mind & pure heart with your clear instict , then go for what ever you choose & do the best. Even though re; marrige, is not like have clear ways, general rules and as easy as USMLE in the = way, guide , predictable with NBME etc , how well you've know, prep etc, as USMLE
GL, all the best mate, if you're lucky, who knows, you might win the double lottory .
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| pearl20
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hey alifaris..oh man..i was just kidding..the thing is i am married and celebrated my first anniversary just a month back. i am giving my exam next week , hope to give my best..but as far as prep is concerned i dont think marriage has anything to do with it if ur spouse is mature and supportive enough. i am female, so may be my priorities and perspectives r different than urs. but all in one, everyhting is necessary in life.. u cant keep dreaming about those green eyes and concentrate on ur studies either!! for me it was love marriage and me and my hubby had to live 5 yrs apart for education purpose during our courtship..and i tell u studying during married life is easier than studying at distance missing ur loved one all the time!! on the other hand, marriage has its own challenges that can be overcome by mature attitude and open discussions...i think anyone who is planning to get married should do it at right age and enjoy life also ..because satisfied and happy person can deicate everything to his or her goal.... at the most what u can do is, give first 6 months exclusively to new married life and its adjustments and then both can decide goals of their life , plan and GO FOR IT........
i might have written a long msg, but its only u who can decide if u love her, if u want her and what and how much u both can complement each other in ur life.. because steps of usmle r just one challenge, if u cant do it togehter now, how r u going to face bigger challenges in life?! so listen to ur heart and do whatever seems correct to u and only u.....
( i am writing this during my break and i think i should now get back to books...after all main goal is to reach out for the ultimate dream!)
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| inkspot
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wait for another 2 years and she will be gone dude! just kidding
it all comes down to this
1) Your previous academic record (bright or below average student) if average you can have entended prep.
2) Financial responsibilites? My parents are supporting the family. I m only working part time to fill in my own pocket
3) Love ! ( go get her - before you know she belongs to someone else)
4) understanding . Tell her that your exam and career is the most imp thing both for u and for ur future family. When ur studying no one should bug you including the green eyed angels. you only want dr. goljan to be telling his jokes.
that i think is about it! and if you score decent there is definetly alot of room for doctors in america. thats why its called land of oppertunity
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