Dr.Luck
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hi,
for some people it might sound like a joke but I've all the symptoms of a suicidal person & have frequent crying spells & thoughts of killing myself...well b/c of many personal problems, a marriage not turning out to be what I thought it should....what should I do?....I don't wanna take any anti depressants b/c they make u too drowsy + have many side effects & I can't go for psycho therapy at the moment as I dn't know how to drive yet but these thoughts have been coming in my mind very frequently & I even have a suicide plan....plz plz plz do reply...any help or counseling in this regard will be greatly appreciated before it becomes too late & I act on my thoughts!
thanx.
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| robin082006
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Sorry to hear that Dr. Luck.
I also used to have a 9-year depression due to breaking a romantic relationship, I also had the felling of worthlessness and thought many stupid plans.
I read a book and memorized this sentence: "WHEN I LOST SOMETHING THAT I CONSIDER PRECIOUS, GOD WILL PRESENT ME ANOTHER MORE PRECIOUS ONE"
Try your best to overcome this period, someday you will realize that you have lots of good things to do, lots of happy issues are waiting for you, and what you are regretting now is not worth keeping.
Good luck.
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| doctor75
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dr.luck,
robin is right.u have to be positive.i understand how hard it must be for u.do u have any friends or family for support?even i went through a phase of depression many years back,felt suicidal n life not worth living but glad i didnt.im so much happier today.things will change with time.be positive.if u r still feeln suicidal,plz take professional help.it will make ur life a lot easier.take care
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| hopeforthebest
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Dear Dr.Luck,
I sure can understand what you are going through.But whatever be the problem there will be a better solution than what you are thinking right now..Instead of focussing on the negative things focus on the positive things that you have - loving parents,caring friends,becoming a doctor(not everybody realises their dream of becoming a doc) and u can only add more to the list...so try to sit and think what should be done to better the situation and not worsen it by such thoughts.whenever you are feeling down see the inspirational presentation in the link http://greatday.com/ hope it helps you..Good Day Doc!
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| Dr.Luck
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hello,
thank you all...I appreciate your help & honestly, it made me feel much much better than I was before....so guys I owe you one & whenever I'll feel depressed I'll come & read this post & will always pray for you guys.
MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
Thanks a million!
Dr.Luck.
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| neuroblastoma
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Dear dr LUCK
i am also one of them who have been thru worse times.,..thought fr suicide.. was totally stuck with everything.. it was like 8 years i spent like that..but now life turns better in jan 2007. so i guess everybody gets bad times for something to get BEST in their lives.
cheer up buddy. You are sent by God to make others happy. REMEMBER ONE THING GOD IS WITHIN YOU MY FREIND. HE will help you for sure.Just believe that HE is standing infront of u.but u cant see him...
ALL THE BEST.
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| Shaina
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hi Dr Luck,i hope u r feeling better by now,i also felt stagnancy also creates such feeling within us,it very digficult task to stick to one decision and working hard towards it for such long time span,and we r very much doing it,and deserve the very best in life.don't expect too much from ppl around us they can never undertsnad the situation that we r going thru.
also one thing is when we have all liesures of life we wud dislike the thought of sitiing at one place and study..although we might enjoy that most right now.
i also feel half of our battle is won as we chose to came so far.very liitle is remaining really.
its definitely not going to be easy to be creme of society
when we r all done ,thousands of ppl look up to us with hope.to have trust and faith of thers just work hard now, stop thinking abt suicide, that's just an escape a big time watser for now,coz we never going to end our life.anyways even if u have acheived so much life is sure going to end,s enjoy till u r alive.
when u get such sick feelings just don't study,maybe u wana break ,coz u can afford,if u can't just sit and study.....................
whenther u like it or nit life is going to end.won't be ur decision,u never know ,so do ur best till u r alive
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| Dr.Luck
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thanks for all ur replies...I appreciate it ...after reading that so many people went through the same things at one point in their lives I feel like a human being too with some rough patches along my way....I'll pull thru it...hopefully.
thank you all...I can't appreciate u guys enough.
MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
Dr.Luck.
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| jehanzebali
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life goes on and stops for no one,
neither it will for u, nor u for someone
at times things look hard
sometimes they really are
but, God has promised of light after every night
dawn strikes the dungeon too
be sure, He will fulfill His promise with you.
i pray everything works out the best for u 
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| Brazil
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Dear Colleague,
You are strong.many peolpe worry about you.Do you see how many replays?
If you can not face everything by yourself,look for help,a good psycologist sometime is necessary to talk .You have your collegues around the world. I am praying for you.You will overcome .Trust in God.
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| goodyear
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DrLuck,
May God shower you this very minute a lot of blessings & a fresher mind with happy thoughts!! I'm praying for you right now!
You can buy the book MY BEST LIFE NOW by Joel Osteen. It is very helpful & inspirational. You can subscribe free daily thoughts also at his website.
I hope you feel better now. LIFE IS SO PRECIOUS. Please pray & ask for HIS GUIDANCE.
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| Dr.Luck
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thanks everyone for taking out time & replying...I'm trying to cope with it & am doing better now...hopefully I'll be fine....thank you all once again,it's b/c of u guys that I'm able to concentrate on much important things in my life rather than taking my life.
MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
GL,
Dr.Luck.
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| 3535
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Hey,
Most of us have been thru' what u r experiencing. Though I did not have an active plan of suicide!
My story: I put in a lot of time and sincere effort in USMLEs (lol: don't we all). I stole a lot of family time, time off from my lil daughter. All was good. But I did not get the scores I had aspired for.
End result: I got prematches at 3 places, and one letter from a prog asking me to rate it high. And currently I am working in research in a top-tier hospital till I start residency where I pre-matched.
A story I want to share w/ u: During my step2 prep last year, I was sitting tearfully discussing w/ my family that I wanted to postpone the exam. I heard a thud, I was siting near the door which leads to a balcony. I ignored it and contd talking w/ my family. Well, after 15mins, we realized that a girl had jumped off the adjacent building . If I had just turned my neck by 30degrees, while I was discussing my USMLE, I would have been able to see her fall.
The "thud" I had heard while discussing USMLE was not a tire bursting. That incidence made me realize that committing suicide is NOT HEROIC. It is the ultimate gross and messy thing any living person can ever do. I saw her white shoes sticking out from the cover sheet put on her by the cops.
Yucky! One does not have courage to face what life has in store for him/her. One should realise that EVERYONE goes thru'stressors- at some point/s in life.
If you see someone having a nice time with a nice family and a great residency, it just means that she/he has had her trying time at some other time.
One thing I have realized is that u can't get rid of feelings of depression if u don't change the circumstances. Take your USMLEs, postponing your family probs to be dealt w/ later.
Change your circumstances. Change "yourself" to deal w/ a bad relationship. (Assuming that most family probs are just things going sour at that point of time, but your basic relation is that of underlying love). "Act" and "sound" as a saint while u r preparing for USMLE with your date already paid for which can't be postponed. Believe me: this gives you a sense of peace in order to study.And tackle your problems head on AFTER exams. Do one thing at a time, you"ll be fine.
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| doc08
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dear Dr luck
though i am not married, i can understand what u r going through.
a lot of people have written really nice and encouraging things
i felt that i should write to you
try to think this way, every person you meet on the road or anyplace IS GOING THROUGH THEIR OWN PERSONAL BATTLE, nobody in this world can say,'oh my life is perfect"
everyone has some difficulty or the other
but only few people r corageous enough to face, overcome adversity and succeed in life, so we have to do that too
i have my own personal battles
i try to think this way
god has given me a respectable life, he has made me a doctor( not everyone gets this oppurtunity to save lives),
i start to appreciate these so called little stuff ( which r pretty important in life really), like i can see, i can walk, i am not in any constant pain, and think , why am i sitting like this without studyding , when god has given me so many blessings in life, its my duty to make use of them and save people lives,
yes you r going through the worst phase in your life, but trust me LIFE CHANGES, ALWAYS, ONLY THING IS WE HAVE TO KEEP TRYING TO CHANGE OUR LIFE TO THE BETTER
LIKE SO MANY PEOPLE WROTE, PUSH YOUR BRAIN TO THINK POSITIVE,
THINK' OKAY IF I WRITE STEP 2 AND GET A FANTASTIC SCORE, THEN I CAN QUICKLY JOIN JOB AND SAVE MY HOUSE, SAVE MONEY FOR INTERVIEWS, THEN WITH MY GOOD SCORES I WILL GET A GOOD RESIDENCY, AND THEN ONCE THERE IS FINANCIAL STABILITY , INVARIABLY THINGS WILL CALM DOWN ON THE FAMILY FRONT( BECUASE I FEEL MOST OF THE COUPLE relationships worsen becuase some outside factor has gone wrong, the basic love is always there, but its just hidden deep down under all the so called problems,
try to have a heart to heart talk with your spouse, if it doesnt work, just keep things mellow and concentrate on ur step 2,
belive me when u get a 99 on step 2 , see the reaction from your spouse u will be so pleasently surprised
try to change the place where u study, try to get a study partner, do whatever works for you, loudly keep saying positive sentences to urself everyday
take each day at a time, u can try meditation or excercise if u like
okay i wrote whatever i could think of at this point
i hope and i will pray that u over come all ur problems
all the best
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| doc08
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oops .. so many spelling mistakes... was trying to type faster,probably that the reason,, i am sure u can follow it though 
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| legend82
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hiiii dr luck:
i hope u will be strong and u will carry on
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| ashdoc
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hi doc luck! v all r with u! study hard . u can do it! arise awakwe and stop not till the goal is achieved! when is ur exam. v can decide and study.dont worry!
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| cdkant
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this is ridiculous, i clicked the link cos i though it was regarding the step2
this is a usmle forum, go to some other website or there are tons of call centers for suicidal cases
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| prep4usmle
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Sorry, will close this thread, the subject is not related to usmle prep.
Please seek professional help for health related problems.
Regards!
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