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yeah,docmle...I agree with you 100% that docs can also take care of that stuff but the point is timing....by the time they are done with the steps,interviews,observerships & yada yada yada they are a bit older for their female halves of same age group & although guys have the choice to marry galss wayyy younger than them but unfortunately gals don't have that choice in majority of cultures to do so & if a female doc gets a choice b/n marrying a young engineer or an old doc...it then depends on personal preferneces ...some prefer older guy & some prefer younger guys....so it's a matter of personal opinion.
Life in fast lane.....That's exactly my point too that matches are made in heaven & u just fall in luv with the person not a doc /engineer or a lawer...b/c in the end it's the person with whom u spend ur life is what matters.
Also every argument has 2 sides but no end....which is also true for the one that every1 is having at this discussion.
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| frontal
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Is this how you all reason out why you would want be with someone? Work it out like mathematics? What juvenile views!
Women are NOT 'programmed to want security'. If men's choices were as limited as that of women, they'd cling to their women. Men get along with women way younger even; women generally do not. Men even with greying hair are supposedly desirable, women with the same are not. A lone woman is more likely to keep celibate than a lone man. Men have more choices! Rob them of some, set their biological clock ticking, and they'll be the ones demanding "security". This is human nature.
Women are in a weaker position, though I do not know who is to blame: men or women. Or both.
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| docmle
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was bit cofusing.......u r saying its personal preference to marry young and old and same time telling cultural costraints........well..anyway gals marry a guy who is generally 3/5 yrs elder to her....and had u married a guy doing residency.u could have lot in ur favour............such as he could have taken care of ur lonliness to take stpes and observerships..in much better way.than anyone else ...so on......i think we all will agree as FRONTAL said women is weeker sex.......hardly 3percent of woman r on top positions worldwide even after so much liberty.in our society..no offence.....they r made so....but then its not possible far man to imagine this world without her......all i can say man r more ambitious, enduring....and forethinkers.....rightly said its MANS world..man on drivers seat and woman on back seat to make it complete .....
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| doc_droc_apurva
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hey why is that men have to marry women younger than them.. 50% of the interestin babes i have been out with have been more than 2yrs older than me they like the immature sob i am.. and i like their sense of maturity.. its usually the childish "get me married now so i dont have to take care of myself" women which are difficult to manage..
and in usa - amgs femme fatales dont marry until 30 and have their first kid after 35.. cmon if a women completes her residency and then decides to marry - its not gonna be that shes gonna stay a spinster.. nowadays ppl marry divorcees in their 40s..
marriage defin has a sense of mathematics involved.. espec if ur from the subcontinent and have seen the arranged marriages of their parents work..
whats love at first sight?? hot guy in merc never knew ppl to fall in love with road hawkers then how is it different from decent babe in white coat? or how is it different from an arranged marriage which most of the comp-doc relationships are??
cmon ppl i have a son who has to go to jhu neurosurg and a daughter to harvard law.. its an expensive affair.. i cud use the extra bucks.. in the end its all the same.. u can fall in love with whomsoever u want.. and get divorced from the most lovable childhood sweetheart.. marriage requires work and sacrifice.. then work and sacrifice for the maximum benefit by marryin some1 who is goin to be helpin out the most
cross of love and arranged marriage with a touch of capitalism.. welcome to the jungle
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| frontal
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Quote: well..anyway gals marry a guy who is generally 3/5 yrs elder to her....and had u married a guy doing residency.u could have lot in ur favour............
I typed from an objective viewpoint. Do not assume my gender.
Quote: hey why is that men have to marry women younger than them..
I never said they had to. I only stated the case.
Okay, I exit from the discussion. At the end of the day we'll all do what our own ideas will have us do.
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| docmle
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frontal........i did not direct line that to u .........it was..for...... brokenhearted,s........ reference....do not take it personaly ....no offence for anyone........
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| docmle
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good one apurva
well said
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| jinxed131
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guys and gals ...if u want an opinion without any sugar coating here it is
the question why females end up marrying software guys...i think that in our society females are actually serving the function of a parasite...the search for the best host...so it is not the question wether doc or not ...the question is ....what is the best option at hand...so doc or not...it is just the pay cheque...and what is available.....and u know while searching for a husband they have to play their cards really good and at proper time as age is also an important factor...am not a male chauvunist...it is the role assigned to females by the society...so they can not do anything about it...its definately not their fault......
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| vallia
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hehe, that's a good one!!
I would definitely be a hookworm.
one of Most common dog parasite : hookworms are minuscule(12 to 15 mm)intestinal worms that hook onto the intestinal wall and consume copious amount of blood (ie money). A hookworm infestation can kill a puppy (heee, that would be you) before the eggs are ever discover in the fecal exam .(before you even know it). It is extremely important to test all dogs on a regular basis because they are veeery contagious .
have regular veterynary check-up and you'll keep your best friend.and yourself ....parasite free
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| Isther
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Jaja... Nice point of view, quite simplistic and practical, but think that doesn't apply to most couples. Certainly some people marry thinking of $$$, convenience, $$$, and more $$$. But stating that women marry the best option at hand, is quite unfair to most couples that married beleiving that they found their soulmates
Is not like women are in a safari hunting for a hubby to take home and feel nice and secure. Every person male or female has thier own espectations and desires about a relationship. Those who wish to marry and form a family, have the right to expect to find someone who will fit their idea of a husband/wife. For instance, you go to a party and met a hot but slutty girl, have a nice time and evening together, now what stops you from marry this chic and make her the mother of your kids and have a happily ever after? Maybe nothing, but if that is not your idea of a wife, then what? does that makes you superficial?
But even when you might have expectations doen't mean that people (most people) marry having an organized plan on how they will end up flooded with cash and "security". I bet that most of you that are married did it because you felt the urge to be with that particular person, happy because your beloved has commited his/her life to you... that can bring a lot of security too, not only $$$$. Well, I know that DINERO is important but I'm referring to why people marry, not why they divorce..
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y'all have issues!!!!
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| LifeInTheFastLane
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Read this somewhere:
Woman! The peg on which the wit hangs his jest, the preacher his text, the cynic his grouch, and the sinner his justification!
Chill guys...lets talk about the NRMP match for now....catch ya all later in March!
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| srf
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How many of us will not accept good prematch rather than waiting for better match?
who is ready to wait till he or she gets his or her first choice residency?
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| blizkonebe
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srf, if you make a wedger on that, i bet you can some good $$$$...
it is a difficult dilema...what if you think you gelled well with a program only they did not think so?...does anyone know how genuine these geezers are on interview day?
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| FH
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Wow, what an interesting and refreshing post, and no I am not talking about the NRMP match on this one.
All I can say is that I am not giving my hubby (electrical and software engineer!) even a hint to what you men docs say about computer/engineer husbands to female docs. C,mon guys give these ppl a break!!
And by the way some s/e make more $$$$ then docs. World's richest guy is a computer geek not a Doc!
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| doc_droc_apurva
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i prefer median as a better measure of central tendency
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| jinxed131
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one word answer...cuz they are stupidd.....they try to avoid bad..but always end up with worse....
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"one word answer...cuz they are stupidd.....they try to avoid bad..but always end up with worse...."
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think again...
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| gollum05
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this is an interesting post. myself and all my friends are in the same position. medicos who married sw guys. the reason is simple, isn't a one person struggle enough. we know that atleast one person in the couple is settled. marriage anyways, doesn't really need professional compatibility. its personal compatibility that matters. thats my 2 cents. doc apurva, u will definitely find the right person for being a helpful person, whether medico or not!
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| nisha
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jinxed... don't be so bitter, go find a girlfriend!
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| docmle
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centeral point of discussion should be the data...stastics..numbers.......not individiual case....marriage is decided by million factors but y......y is it that indian female doc feels so insecure.. succumbs and marry a s/e guy before enetring the residency........y....this perticular case yyyyyyy...so much professional diaparity......that also y in indian scenario.......if u r indian.........its easy to find answer.........if not then any philosophy vindicates the cause. ........well...last word...s/e r at edge in terms of money imidiately after graduation because of software boom in india in early 90s.where as a doc may have to work as BPO emplyoe for few bucks. AND UNFUTUNATELY THEY FIND THE HUGE PARADOX AFTER ENTERING RESIDENCY...I SAID THE SAME IN MY LAST POSTS IN DETAIL. morever there is very less scope for female to excel in thois profession provided lenth..hardwork and glamour attached to it..no offence but this is a reality.....if female doc especialy indian find the satisfaction in just setteling. producing kids in time and doing any residency any time..there can not be any better choice than a s/e guy
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| doc_droc_apurva
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gollum - thanx for ur wishes..
i am not bitter or jinxed. i just like bein a firestarter
and do hope that this was a refereshing thread
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| hopingtogethere
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just my 2 cents on this post from the gals' side. In the end, though money & job might be a factor, i don't think any girl will marry a guy based on purely those criteria.Its very imp for girls to have a supportive companion for life, doesn't matter if its a doc or a computer whiz. Be urself, appreciate the girl on your life for what she is, and u have it made.Someone said " the best gift a guy can give a gal is his whole attention" and that is really true,nothing sweeps us off our feet as attention does, even if guys,as u know,can do it for a precious few moments.
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| smal
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nice thread,provocates almost everyone to speak.
i think,whats unknown is always mysterious and attracts more than the known.(am a gynec and married a softw. Eng!)we know the doc guys probably more than we should be.and vice versa.
finance is yet another imp. point i think.they can fiance now and we can finance latter on.
if i'd 've meet an intresting enuff doc guy,i dont think i'd 've rejected the offer to marry him.neither would any other gal.
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