doc_droc_apurva
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brothers and sisters of the brothers
decided to post this to chill out (and to solidify my MCP credentials
came across so many women docs married to software blokes. why dont they marry docs? (we are a intelligent and charming species too
doesnt it cause rift and insecurity if u earn twice as much as ur husband? on the other hand do u like bein treated as a doc after comin home (which wudnt be the case if ur husband was a doc too)
so what do u say? no offence
apurva
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| DiaHuq
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in our med school, most of the girls end up marrying batchmates, only 2 of us married non-doctors. but most of the pakistani or indian female doctors I met have engineers or business men or comp sci husbands....
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| sam00007
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Well, before going to medical school I was a software engineer for several years with undergraduate in computer science. Now, I am married to a software engineer. I guess engineers are better thinkers and easy going than docs. Docs think they are the world's best breed and therefore are inflexible intellectually.
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| Vai
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i am doctor married with a softwere specialist woman. it is the opposite
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| doc_droc_apurva
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docs are egoistic - goes with the job description but inflexible is takin it too far - dont we adapt to every new recomendation which comes out docs are elitist but then they in part do deserve it too provided they dont take it to the extreme and become stiff upper lipped snobs.
good way2go vai btw any relation with steve???
basically i feel that the it boom has left usa with many more eligible comp bachelors. so its a case of random selection where u are going to come up the black ball more coz the sack has more of em.
surprisingly no posts from unmarried boys and gals
apurva
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| sharvil
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well apurva,
where else can u think about this questions but in the heart of the silicon valley. so apurva what do you think of the opposite combination? male doc with female software engineer. would that be compatible??
all the best man
did u get any more interviews.........
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| doc_droc_apurva
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touche sharvil btw ur combo is acceptable to me. do pass me any volunteers u come across
same old story on iview front. how many demons u slayed in ur wake?
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| usmleed
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It seems that a better question would be - why do software blokes marry docs? do they like the idea of doing 9 to 5 jobs while their better half brings in the dough? is it the moolah or the status or just the pure brilliance of mind(  ........) that they go after?
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| dharjma
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simple dude. which guy wouldnt wanna play computer games at work while his wife makes all the money. then when he comes home he plays more computer games, among other things.. i should have freaking been a computer nerd and married a doc instead of busting my ass thru med school 
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| sga430
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i would like to marry a porn star. i feel software engineers wont be as good in the sack.
anyhow i feel this is the match support forum meaning the nbme match. for other types of match u may wanna post in the Forum Lounge.
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| brokenhearted
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I'm a female doc married to a Software engineer...let me answer that...... docs start "really" earning at a considerably older age while engineers start at a younger age so it's a case of helping each other in the times of distress & need....in the beginning of their careers docs need all kinds of support(emotional + financial) which another aspiring doc can't provide most of the times as he's in emotional & financial riot himself so it's better to go for someone who's already in a better position than you are to fulfill all ur needs + once you have achieved your dreams you would be sure that your soulmate has been with you in times when u weren't anybody or anything & still they stayed at your side...it also spares you from getting paranoid later on when u are where u wanted to be that every1 around you is only b/c u r someone when u know he was there with u when u had nothing & he had everything!.....but in the end....it's the luv of your life that you find,not planning to fall for a doc or an engineer but you just do...as they always say"Matches are made in Heaven"
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| doc_droc_apurva
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matches are made in heaven.. and ignited in hell
docs can be very supportive too.. and on the long run be a financially more viable option (since u mention a lot of economic considerations)
if im comin across as a despo doc - then it must be bcoz i am 1 lol.. hate the bloody engineers takin the cream of the field..
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| docmle
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welll guys
nice off the line topic.i m too stumped.....hereis my ball in the court.......i came across so many gals in my batch who married soft eng just they were exhasted...nothing else..all we know beauty hardly follows brains...and its like searching a black cat in dark room to find good looking chics in our field....so is their side tofind a good earnig doc to support thier needs of good feminie life ...all we know women r made biologicaly to produce first then comes next thing...they r emotional in genral which we match only when driven to madness...i mean devdas...they r just thinkers two dimentions as we are in three which makes us forethinkers....i have come acros so many eng gals who claimed boys in our field just dumb and superficial.......as one female doc replied....its the need thats covered.......even she knows it will be difficult to taste the real sweet core of this profession with out her doc buddy.......this trend i have seen more in sourth where docs are made in every nook and corner of street not in north...india....u can c it in states also.doc marry a doc only....though not a thumb rule but mostly.........its man made world dear....so it will be.......does not matter.some other small fish takes ur bait in troubled times but u will also garland best among chics in our fireld in residency......they married s/e because they did not find docs/suitable docs....or not having many assets on thier side..gals can not afford to sit and wait untill she gets residency then marry...s/e married because doc carry a huge status in US..which would be a dream for him..its not easy guys to hit this jackpot every soul knows who is trying or tried.was it not our basic reason to go to US becasue u r chance of getting princess charming are more?.......we compromised with time and they compromised with life for better because recently i read some where a young lady gets best dates in youth..chances of being shot by terrorist are more then finding a date as the age goes off...do not take me pessimist but was not it right said....
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| LifeInTheFastLane
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nothin surprising about femalr docs marryin software blokes....and not docs,,,,coz its still a marriage of geeks!!!
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| docmle
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yeahhhhhh..its all about game....our bad luck we usually lose it on emotional front but not too longer..i would like to add one more thing...recently i went to a matrimonial site.i recieved so many repllies from gals who were s/e and earning in 6 figures and same time from gals who were not much sound but specificaly asked me abbout my field osf specialisation...i think we people are more philosiphical as philosopy generates originality not as s/e for whome 4 can be only after multiplying 2 in to 2.how many s/e u have heard as musicians,artist,senates......c the same in our profession..its not gals r too bad to be considered..everyone is right on her place...but then rule of playing tis game is.......gal should be good looking nd guy should not be dumb....final word ..everyone plays it with time but we win it at right time..gaals claim love to those guys who they do not and denies who they love...moreover they r know to chase married man than a eligible batchlor....still there is chance in the end guys...........
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| vallia
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well, nice topic, I'm a female doc married to a doc. I took care of the baby when he decided to work in US. Now he's working , I am learning for usmle, after that I'll be working and he'll be taking usmle. . Complicated, isn't it. .I guess when you are married with an IT guy, you have completely power on your professional life and also a lot of support. I am happy though with my doc husband. Nothing compares with midnight talking about ischemic heart disease....
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| docmle
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thats the great spirit vallia........i think u r very lucky u have the heart of right man because u r so.very few women goes that way .good luck and happy times......most men want thier wives to match thier strides not to follw thiers wives strides....i think u got it......
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| doc_droc_apurva
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lol
gr8 convo.. lets hope we all find somethin smart, hot and preferably earnin in 6 digits
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| blizkonebe
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software engineers?...you lapped out...i am married to a lawyer...
if you think med school was hard; you have never spoken to a lawyer...
it's all good...
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"A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences." Dave Maurer
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| docmle
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and how about residency?
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| brokenhearted
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It's all how you see life.....90% female gender prefers security in life(it's how they are programmed).....so they go for the most secure option in front of them not someone who's still in the process of getting there(no offence meant)......& which female wouldn't prefer to have surprise b-day parties, out-of-town trips & short relaxing breaks while she's preparing for the depressing never ending steps,observerships/externships & research works...it's like a breath of fresh air!
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| docmle
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but then doc also take care of all these things in quite sensitive way.......no offence......sensibilities stretching too far i think on this topic
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| LifeInTheFastLane
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Humph!...where did those days go...when people rather married a "person" instead of a doctor, or lawyer or software engineer....??
Ah! materialistic world....
(pretty good, eh?
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| doc_droc_apurva
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cmon - material girls have ruled the earth since time immemorial.. time for the new breed of material men
cmon there a 150k more reasons to marry a doc than a housewife
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