meghana jadhav
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The parents of a 7-year-old boy divorce. The boy lives with the mother and sees his father every-other weekend. During these visits, the boy is sullen and angry with the father, but when it is time to return home, he clings to the father and cries in a desperate manner while saying “I’m sorry! I want you and mom to live together again.” Which of the following is the most helpful statement that the father can make to the son?
1 “Big boys don’t cry.”
2“I left your mother, I didn’t leave you.”
3“I’ll see you in 2 weeks.”
4 “You’re the man of the house now.”
5“Your mother was too hard to live with.”
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| santaclara
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what about "c".
just a guess
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| meghana jadhav
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Explanation of Answer..ie 2. i left ur mother ,i didnt leave u
This statement from the father would reflect his understanding of the egocentric nature of school-aged children. That is, the child is assuming that he is responsible for the divorce between his parents. The anger and withdrawal reflect the child’s frustration with the situation, but the tears and apology suggest the child’s fear and assumed responsibility for the breakup.
“Big boys don’t cry” is a demeaning and belittling statement.
“I’ll see you in 2 weeks”ignores the child’s felt responsibility for the divorce.
“You’re the man of the house now” places too much responsibility on a 7-year-old child.
“Your mother was too hard to live with” places all the blame and responsibility for the divorce on the parent, with whom the boy lives on a daily basis. It ignores the reality that divorce is usually due to difficulties that both parents have with each other
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| meghana jadhav
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initially my ans was also c....
but the given ans and explanation was like this
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| docofthebigapple
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i go with choice #2. the father has the responsibility to make sure the child doesn't get a wrong perception of the situation. The child isn't responsible for the divorce( question is not suggestive of that) and the child feels he is. So not saying choice 2 to him will re-inforce his thinking and lead him to depressing thoughts with other probable complications.
SO choice 2 is my answer.
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| miky
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I don't think a 7yo child understands sth about a divorce. I think the only child wants is a family of his own like other children of his age. So it's no use to tell this child who is to blame (mother or father) for the divorce.
I think the best way for this child is that his both parents do everything they can to stay as often as they can together with the child.
I think the answer is 3.
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| meghana jadhav
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so the answer given is 2
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